I trusted, made time for and generally 'looked after' this person in as much as was 'on call' and willingly 24/7 as they were depressed and needed a friend after the breakdown of relationship.. For a longtime Just as I'm about to 'need them back ' and they knew - they have 'disappeared' from the planet .. Yea I am answering my own question I know what i would advise BUT different when its you init!! fool or not? ignore and forget?... and how do you 'trust again'?
2007-06-15 01:03:44 · 9 answers · asked by Bela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oooops. You made an error. When you give of yourself you should do so without expecting anything in return. My motto is "Never expect anything from anyone and you wont be disappointed."
2007-06-15 01:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Little Lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK ..
please take the time to read all of this answer, as when you read the first part .. you mightn't like what you're reading (until you read the whole answer.......
With Friendships ... you never do anything more than you are prepare to do for the sake of friendship .. and you never should expect friends to do the same by you ... IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET HURT... It's not like an accounts thing where you say... " OH but I was there for you.. and I did this and I did that "...YOU do what YOU do because YOU think It's the right way to behave .....not because you want your friends to do the same....
having said that though ( and now I will sound contradicting) ..I believe a TRUE friend WILL reciprocate...OUT of friendship though NOT because they OWE you....
Maybe your friend isn't as strong as you? Maybe you're a special kind of person that can help others .. :) as not all people can..
trust is a hard thing to regain once it's lost .. forgive but not forget.
Just have a guard around yourself .. and NEVER let it down .. like you act as though you trust .. BUT you are prepared that your trust may not be earned..
If the person then does the right thing by you...all's well .. and IF they don't .. YOU were prepared...and therefore you may not be as hurt.
Sometimes the best person you can rely on IS yourself,
2007-06-15 08:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by ll_jenny_ll here AND I'M BAC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry but thats a load of rubbish - people who say you shouldnt expect something back thats what friends are for , you should be there for each-other - the people who have that in my opinion are selfish themselves.
If you buy a present and dont get one back then thats different..but when you are low and need help friends should be there , even if just there to listen.
It s hard to forget but you need to move on - maybe write a letter say how much theyve hurt you and let you down when you needed her...if you dont you wont have your closure and youll be keep thinking about it.
2007-06-15 11:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by Swan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were there as a friend not anything more. You should just ignore and forget it but when you see the person again be friends and who knows they may get the hint that you care more than they know.
2007-06-15 08:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Carol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would probably ignore at first but then i would wanna get revenge. but i duno if i would even put myself out that far for a friend anyway. im the kinda person i lik doing things myself, hard or impossible. ill find a way or die doin it. or just let it go it aint that big a deal, that what i think you should do is let it go. unless you pop into them one day. just run up to them and punch them straight in the face.
2007-06-15 08:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by big H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk right away from that friendship and never look back.
There was nothing foolish about what you did.
You were being a super person. Don't let it stop you continuing to be like that.
Even a hundred grabby friends cannot diminish from you as a person if you don't allow them to get inside your head.
2007-06-15 08:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are what they are and you should love them for what they are and not hate them for what they are not. Just because you were able to help them in that way doesn't mean they can help you in the same way. If you think about it. They have helped you too already and will do so again in future.
I vote for the option you didn't give.
2007-06-15 08:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This other person seems to be selfish and is not a true friend.
I say ignore it and when they do come back to you looking for help i would keep on ignoring.
2007-06-15 08:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore
2007-06-15 08:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋