i once told my friend that i need more gay friends and maybe the right one. so, here came the friday night, he kept buzzing me to go gay club with him. i aint very in mood to go and i personally not very into clubbing. when saying no a few times, he seems a bit unhappy. and a question came in my mind. is that true like what he said, the only place i can meet more gay friends or love one is to go clubbing.... ? and honestly he is the only gay friend i know and this place is too new to me. ... life aint easy here.
and is that normal @ age 24 and still never dated before?
2007-06-15 00:52:38 · 8 answers · asked by ricardochy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, you go to bar and liquor establishments , and you will get what you deserve, drunkards and losers mostly.
2007-06-15 00:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bar is definetly not my first choice for a place to find love.. lol! You are likely to only find superficial love and superficial friends there. I'm not much of a bar/club person either. Its fun for what it is.. and maybe you'll meet an aquaintance or two.. but I've never met a long term friend or love from a place like that. I've met some really great people just volunteering for things like Gay Days and Pride events. As far as love, I don't know.. just kind of happens when I least expect it on my normal routine. I met my first love through a friend.. no bar, no club, just happened to know a few of the same people. And while its a little frustrating now to think about finding new love after being with someone for so long/ and now that I have no clue how the dating scene works.. it happens in time and I'm glad I didn't pick up that drunk chick at the bar. 'Cause she isn't going to look pretty in the morning...
2007-06-15 02:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by nothingbutme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you're just part of the new generation. You're 24, you've grown up with gay being fine, and not a big deal. You didn't grow up in the 70s when clubbing was the only way to meet people.
There are other ways now, like coffee shops, or just on the streets, or through work, or something, it's not so restrictive.
Plus you have the power of the internet. Take out a personal ad, then you don't have to set foot in a club. Lots of men don't like clubbing and just use the net to social network instead.
So yeah, clubs aren't for everyone. I know I personally find them dullsville, and considering where I live, all there is is gay bars, nothing more. I refuse to meet people in places that're meant to pick up, it's not my thing. So I meet people in everyday life, or through the net.
Heck you can even just use myspace or facebook now to search for people in your area that you share a common sexual orientation with, it's never been easier.
2007-06-15 03:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clubbing isn't the only way to meet friends & find love, however it is a pretty good way. I'm not into clubbing either and a few weeks ago my fiance & I went to Switch (a gay bar/club). We had a great time, danced all night, met a GREAT group of friends that we hung out with all night, and went out to eat wiht when the bar/club closed. Not everyone is a drunk that goes to a bar or a club. I'm 19 and I can't drink when I got there. In NJ its 18 to party, 21 to drink. But even still not eveyone is drunks. You never know until you try.
Also try websites like myspace, its a great way to meet people in your local area that you can meet up with after talking to for a bit. Also maybe join some type of support group in your area or something. Just be friendly and be yourself! :-)
O and one more thing... every person is different when it comes to dating, so its fine that you are 24 and never dated.
Good Luck!
2007-06-15 02:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of places to make friends and find love outside the club scene!!! Gays are like everyone else, they go grocery shopping, they go to laundry mats, they take classes like dance and art ... etc. They join support groups. And yes, there is the internet ... just be cautious when going there. Don't rush into anything with anyone you meet, no matter where. Believe in yourself and have confidence and you will make friends. They don't have to be gay friends ... lots of heterosexual people have gay friends that they might introduce you to! :)
2007-06-15 01:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lou C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about going to gay organization meetings or gay church activities? How about matchmaking web sites? Yahoo has one.
And don't worry about not dating by age 24. There is no "normal" on this.
2007-06-15 01:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a website devoted to this and other questions about nightclubs....www.lonelynightclub.com
2007-06-19 05:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by lEElo x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
internet
2007-06-15 01:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋