What will you do if your child turns Gay?

Answer 1

People do not just 'turn gay'.

The best thing parents can do, is just to take whatever opportunities to remind their child that they love him/her unconditionally, and that he/she can talk to them about anything at any time without fear of judgment, condemnation, scorn, ridicule, or punishment.

Answer 2

First of all your child didnt TURN gay they already were. They have just reached a point of self acceptance instead of a life of repression and unhappiness. You need to contact the nearest chapter of PFLAG (parents and friends of lesbians and gays) who can give you some information and help you inyour process of accepting and loving your child. They are still the very same person the were before.

Answer 3

Your question should be "if your child IS gay". No one "turns" gay. It isn't like a light bulb. I should know. I've watched my nephew (who has always lived with me) grow up.

When he discovered he was gay, I looked up all sorts of info (yes, like pflag) about organizations and churches in Phoenix AZ (USA) for him. I prepared our extended family for the new info as he wanted people to know so he wouldn't have to live with a "secret".

Was I upset? In my head, no. In my heart, yes - not because he was gay, but because I knew how hard it is to be different.

Answer 4

Well I am gay, so if any of the children I plan to have turn out to be gay, I'll be fine with it. I wouldn't really care so long as they were happy, healthy, and still gave me grandkids.

Answer 5

Being gay myself, I wouldn't see it as a character flaw. I'd feel bad for them, of course, because of the pressure society would put on them, but I would support them in every way possible.

Seeing as its actually less likely for gay people to have gay children, my main hope is that my kids have gay friends who can feel safe in my house, should they ever need help, and can come to me for advice and help.

Answer 6

Love them.

(I have 3 kids, one girl and two boys.)

As far as I'm concerned they're all individuals, and their sexuality is only a small part of who they are (and very little to do with me either). So what the hell difference does it make?

Of course, I suppose there would be challenges like supporting them when all the gay hating bigots crawled out of wherever it is they hide.

But have you ever seen a mother protecting her young?

Don't envy whoever that would be!

Answer 7

help him or her out by going to pflag or whatever i can do. then again. i'm gay myself. so... not that hard for me. for straight parents, i think they have expectations that are a little difficult to deal with. they imagine thier child straight, most parents do... so it's a bit of a shock at first. but i know a lot of really cool moms and dads of gay kids. bless them!

Answer 8

First two things you need to know:
a) homosexuality is genetic, just like hair or eye color
b) if I did have a child that "came out" I would give them all the love and support that they would need, it is something that you are apparently blatantly unaware of: UNCODITIONAL LOVE!

Answer 9

I would love them the same, treat them the same, I would respect them maybe even more, because they stood up for what they believe is right. It takes alot of guts to come out, especially to your family. Like everyone, they are aloud to love who they want.

Answer 10

Accept them and love them - I have 2 sons and a daughter