I have been married now for over 20 yrs but 12 yrs ago, I met a single guy at wrk 7 yrs my junior. The chemistry was instant. I then moved to another country, although maintaining occasional contact via email. He has subsequently married, divorced and remarried and says he is happy. Says he loves me too. He came to visit my husband and I with his current wife recently, and it was lovely to have him. When I entered the room, his face lit up and we laughed constantly, he would seek me out and we talked all the time, yet he says he is happily married. I wonder if there will ever be a future for us. My children have grown up and he has yet to have any. His wife is from a different culture and does not get him at all. I love him and have said I would be prepared to marry him, if only he would ask. Question is, will he? Eventually? We have not had a sexual relationship, and I have told him I will not have one with him until we are married. Guys - interested in yr feedback
2007-06-14 21:05:06 · 7 answers · asked by Max2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not shallow - of all things that I could be called, shallow is definitely not one of them. I have been faithful to my husband of 20 years, and suffered both physical and emotional abuse and yet stayed in the relationship. I love this person, and am trying to understand from a male perspective how you can love a person and a wife at the same time, although he has admitted that I am his soul mate. The question was do you think there is a future here, eventually?
2007-06-14 21:21:43 · update #1
and u are gonna hurt your husband of 20 years for this man... your poor husband has such a shallow wife.. he has wasted 20 years of his life on...
just sit back and look at your married life.. i dunno if it was happy or not.. but look at all the good and bad u been through.. after all of that...most importantly surviving all of that u seek a man based on chemistry..
well your life your call.. just think what if your husband did it to u.. how would u feel{}
2007-06-14 21:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by who ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is currently married and still tells you he loves you, what do you make of that? would you want to be with somebody who is married and loves another? He obviously doesn't care about his wife and would not care about you. If you even now consider marrying him you no longer love your husband and should be decent enough to let him move on. Contrary to popular belief, men are not the only ones who can destroy a pure relationship.
2007-06-15 04:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no future for you two, he does not love you, he is just being polite....let him go and enjoy his life with his new wife. don't be so selfish just because you are sick of your 20 year marriage,What about your poor husband.....I left my husband for another man years ago and have regretted it ever since! He unfortunately died.... I have carried the guilt for 30 years.
2007-06-15 04:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a divorce before you think about breaking up someone else's home too!! Why do people start new relationships before they are finished with the one that they are in? Why do people think that it is okay to break up other people's marriages?? Where has moral character gone?
2007-06-15 04:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to have the best of both worlds. Don't let him. Stay with your husband to drive him wild and don't give him a second thought.
2007-06-15 04:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is no future. He will probably want to have kids and you are to old for that. Plus if he really wanted to be with you he would have tried long time ago.
2007-06-15 08:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep an eye on him as your brother.
No sex please, we're British.
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2007-06-15 04:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋