should i call the police?

Question

My family and I havent been getting on for a while as they are very agaienst my 32 year old boyfriend as we have a 12 year age gap!
After a many falling out, I walked out and have moved in with my fella and only been back to collect my staff!
I have had none of my post forwarded on and found out last night it's because they have been opening it and shredding it!

I'm sure this is agienst the law and I want them to know that just because we have had a fallen out does not make them above the law!

Answer 1

I'd report them.

Answer 2

Have you considered going to the post-office and getting just your mail redirected. This is probably the simplest solution - it may cost a little, but will be cheaper than the added stress you would place on your relationship between you & your man and you & your parents.

Sometimes parents have a tough job letting go, they might feel that they must still protect you (even from yourself). I realise this situation is difficult for all concerned - your man for making you choose; your parents for losing their beautiful daughter to someone outside what they consider to be a respectable age range and you for being stuck in the middle.

Calling the police is going to open a large can of worms, which will be difficult to close when and if the situation blows over.

Make everyone who could conceivably send you mail aware of your new address - banks, building societies, library, tax folk [I think they're nice people - no, really!]. Don't forget your friends!

Your parents want you to return to the family home, I agree that reading then shredding your mail is immoral and unethical. I'm sure they know this themselves, but consider how hurt they must feel at the moment wit the double trauma of you spreading your wings and them losing a daughter.

You may yet make up, but it comes down to you proving to your parents they were wrong to doubt your decision.. You're 20 and capable of making choices, and taking responsibility for the risks that brings.

Hope things sort themselves out

Answer 3

It is against the law. Before contacting the authorities, let me ask you a few q's. Did you put in a forwarding notice with the post office? Here is a link to the Post Office to help you out.

https://moversguide.usps.com/?referral=USPS

Next, I can appreciate the concern over the age gap. You cannot legally drink yet, but you are with a much older man. That is fine with me, I have never seen it work for long but if it is working for you, more power to you.

How did you find out they are shredding it? Are you sure the source is reliable?

Realizle that if you do decide to pursue this, it is a Federal offense. These are the types of charges they use for mobsters and criminals they cannot get any other way. Do you really want to put your family thru that?

If you do decide that you cannot work it out (but please, try hard), you would not contact the police. You would contact the Post Master General. You can do it online with the link below or contact your post office.

https://www.usps.com/postalinspectors/mailthft/default.htm

I can only hope that you and your family can work this out. Please try to be patient and see the situation from their standpoint.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

The police have better things to do than worry about you not forwarding your mail after a family dispute. No offense.

1. Pick your battles in life. There will be many. Most should be let go.

2. Blood is thicker than water. Your family will be around the rest of your life, this guy wont.

3. The age difference is nothing. It does matter when one person is barely out of being a teen and the other person is in their early 30's. You should ask people here about that.

Answer 5

It is against the law - It's called tampering with her Majesties Royal Mail. There's quite a hefty fine and even a jail sentence in extreme cases.

However, I would suggest the better way of approaching this situation is not by antagonising it any further. Just phone everyone who writes to you that your address has changed and give them the new address......Simple really.

There are 14 years between myself and my wife, so I know how dificult things can be. Just give your folks time to adjust to the idea. Give them some space and they'll come round if they see you are both happy and are treating each other well. No matter what you are thinking now they do love you.

Best of luck.

Answer 6

It is against the law and i would be furious too. I think you should consider though that, although at the moment you wont care, in future you may want to reconcile with your family and getting the police on them will likely cause a huge rift, Getting the police involved wont get your mail back.
I imagine they were angry and i dont agree with what they have done but something about phoning the police on your relatives doesnt sit right with me. Of course if it was assault etc thats different but do you think it will really solve anything? If they are genuinely regretful then maybe there are other ways to sort this out? Please try and think past your anger before you do anything x

Answer 7

It is illegal but once you call the law in that will probably mean you will never really be able to have a relationship with them again. As angry as you all are with each other family is something that its very hard to turn your back on forever.

I would suggest going to the post office and getting your mail redirected. You can pay for this to be done for 3 months and then inform all the people that you receive mail from of your new address.

Answer 8

Yes, opening the Private Mail of a person over the age of 18 is against the law, however, it is a CIVIL matter and not a job for the police, unless it can be proven that theft of the contents of the mail has taken place.
You need to consult a solicitor. What I would do, would be to go round your parents house, fully armed with cakes, biscuits etc and sit down and have a cup of tea with them and talk about what's been going on.
Listen to their views and then let them listen to yours. They only want what's best for you, even if it isn't what YOU want.
Talk to them, it's the only way.

Answer 9

You want to be an adult fine then think like one tell all your friends your new address and all other places in which you deal with example banks and other businesses then you will get your mail .Do not inflame the situation by calling the police if the letters are already shredded you can't read them anyway.

Answer 10

A very similar thing happened to me. Well, the opening of mail anyway.

Send a letter, addressed to your self, to your parents address.

Write them a letter inside stating that you know they are opening your mail.... This should make them think!

Also, if you are considering the police, send the letter RECORDED DELIVERY, that way you will have a signature of the person receiving the letter.

By the way, the letter I wrote is not printable on here, but I am sure you get the idea, lmao...

Answer 11

stop ur mail at the post office takes 3 days forward to new address or post office if you in love they will come round but love is also blind there must be a reason why they dont like him there your family unless you really weird or something you should be more conserned about ur family etc than wasting peloice time build a bridge between meet half way otherwise have a time out they will come round