I found out, he got 2 girl pregnant a the same time still having an affair w/ ex GF abroad. Since then we've been civil w/ each other, i only stay for the kids. I found out too that he's planning to file for annulment but then lately, he started acting differently, he's been kind and sweet to me, now that i'm ready to have my own life coz i have moved on. Do you think there still hope for us to reconcile and continue our marriage despite what had happened?
2007-06-14 20:39:22 · 12 answers · asked by Daneelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have become an independent, capable woman and he wants you again? What a nerve he's got!
Can you be sure that he won't revert to his womanising ways once he is sure he has you back where he wants you?
I say get out of this honey. Leave whilst you still have your dignity.
Good luck
2007-06-14 20:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!!! That is a tough question. I am not sure that I could stay with a guy that got two girls pregnant at the same time while married to me. That alone would be grounds for divorce. I think that you have a major cheater on your hands, and sweet or not sweet this guy is scum and needs to be washed away. Send him down the river, but keep his money and any thing that he has of any value. Make him pay for his very cruel actions. Then see how many women he gets when he does not have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. Let him walk to work and that may give him some time to think about how cruel and stupid he is.
2007-06-14 20:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hope. You said it yourself. You only stay for the kids. Not a good reason. Sure they matter but do you really want them to be raised in a hostile inviroment? Think about the message they will get. ANd what about you. What do you want. Have you lost yourself to this relationship that isnt fufilling. Move on and make the necessary arangments for the kids legally or by agreements with him and maybe get kids in counseling for a little so they can vent and recover.
2007-06-14 20:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he doesn't sound straight at all- beware of soon to file for annulment guys turning nice- he wants something- and it's probably not you. You have moved now- don't retract now. It will be difficult to put the pieces back together the next time. Just for the sake of the kids you don't have to endure his behaviour. Children anyway know. when their parents are living happilly together or not.
2007-06-14 20:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by shania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have married a player who is not ready to settle down. I doubt that his motives for the recent behavior are unselfish.
What kind of father is he to your children? Watch what happens there and you will know whether the hope is there or not. He can be nice to you for the wrong reasons, but the kids will know whether he is sincere. Time will tell.
2007-06-14 20:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but if you are unhappy, get out! I waited and waited in hope that things would improve. I finally made moves to divorce him. When the divorce came through, I only wondered why I didn't do it before! Bad times leave scars, getting rid of the scars takes time....
2007-06-14 20:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by caro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is hope, but why would you want to be married to this man? He got 2 women pregnant and is having an affair...
2007-06-14 20:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He got two women prego..and seeing his ex girlfriend....and your wondering if you should try to make things work????
Good grief.
2007-06-14 22:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, i think that he sees that youre leaving and is after the chase again.
2007-06-14 20:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesnt desrv u.. he needs to know that he cant take women for granted... move on... he needs to know that his actions have consequences. {}
2007-06-14 20:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋