Wife dressing improperly !?

Question

Iam married for 8 months and she has been abroad for some time.The thing is that she dresess up in jeans and t shirts most of the time at a place where no one even wears a thing like that.I want to tell her to wear something traditional without hurting her.My relatives r also disgusted at it .Any ideas

Answer 1

Just tell her that jeans and t-shirts are fine for some places, however some places require that you dress up.

You really have no right to tell her what to wear, and neither does your family. If you ask her nicely, I bet that she would be willing to compromise with you.

Answer 2

Husband and wife share a lot more than life & intimacy. They share feelings, faith, concerns, emotions and they have to care for each other. The situation demands a bit of matured & patient handling from your end and you may convince her to experiment with the way she dresses up.

She is from a different background and probably she feels more comfortable in that attire (jeans & t-shirt). You would appreciate the fact that the tradition/ethnic dresses tend to be a bit uncomfortable. This would require you to be practical. You can try something semi-traditional or pseudo-traditional. Let me tell you that the fashion is going global now and you have a lot of options. WHAT ABOUT AN ETHNIC 'KURTA' + JEANS INSTEAD OF A T-SHIRT + JEANS! You can also try new look saree drapes with internation standard blouses which are decent yet sexy (Remember Mandira Bedi or Try some bollywood stuff).

Answer 3

Your married life is very short & u have along way to go. Initially one has to tolerate so many things for the time being. Do not be overegoistic so early . Respect her as she respects u . Love her well so that she becomes obedient. Tell her politely that there are clothes other than jeans & T shirts & some of them more comfortable too. She will realise that in other clothes she will look more beautiful, attractive & charming than in jeans. Always be sweet, soft & tolerant with her. Yr relatives r not deciding factor for her outfits & make ups etc. If u r able to please her properly she will not disobey any good suggestion. When she gets pregnant , she will herself give up those clothes.

Answer 4

Hmm, maybe she does not feel that it is inappropriate?

I can understand your desire for her to dress in a more "traditional" style, but she is an adult and her manner of dress is up to her.

Both you and your wife should be able to talk about this, without any demands or orders.

Try asking her to change her style of dress, and explain that your family is very old fashioned or traditional and that they get upset or are concerned for her.

Also keep in mind, that if your wife is from a different culture than you are she may see nothing wrong in dressing the way she does. Also, many people would see your family getting upset with her way of dress as being very out of line. Your wife is an individual and a free person, as well as being your wife, she is not a piece of property.

Please talk about this gently and respectfully with your wife before it hurts both of you, please.

Answer 5

did she dress this way before you got married if so then you new it and have no right to say anything. your family does not matter they will never approve but i do agree that someplaces she would need to dress up. I'm a blue jean and t shirt girl to the extream I don't even where make up. and most of the time my husband shirts. but when my husband takes me out i will where a nice pair of blue jeans and a very nice shirt dress shirt and put make up on and fix my hair we have been married for five years and the only time he has seen me in a dress is on our wedding day. most of the time i where heals with my jeans and a low cut but nice female shirt. i very rarely where slacks. but will if he ask's when i'm in a dress i feel like i should be on stage. but if you just ask she will probably where what you want certen times but just a family get to gether blue jeans and a female low cut shirt and heals and make change everything about women like us dinner in a fancy rest. yes maybe a dress or slacks

Answer 6

Why don't you plainly tell her what you think about her dress, as sweetly as you can? She must have some sense of propriety too. Anyway, you can suggest that as an Indian woman, she will look several times better in traditional Indian attire. She is bound to consider your opinions and suggestions favourably if she isn't an obstinate fool.

Answer 7

Explain her that u always dream of seeing and loving her in traditional dresses.
Also make her feel anyhow that u are mad about the women who dress up traditionally and gracefully.
That way she wd b forced by her wife-instinct to wear traditional dresses also.

Answer 8

Simple thing dear. Buy her good dresses (not jean and shirts) and how abt trying this today and that other day...
btw, are you really concerned about your relative cribbing... have you given a thought, why not allow her to wear what she feels comfy?

Answer 9

when she dresses just say "i think you should.." or "how about you.." and fill in the blanks. if u really love ur wife then u will forget about what your friends and relatives say. if they don't like ur wife, stand up for her and say tell them that she is who she is and that u still love her no matter what they say. you can shop with her, buy clothes for her, and just ask her that some things are really important to you that she dresses nicely. if ur at a fancy place, she should get summ fanceeeee clothes! if she doesn't want to impress u or other ppl maybe she just doesn't care.

Answer 10

Just ask her to show respect for your family by dressing appropriately around them and at family occasions. She can wear jeans and shirts when she does things on her own.