How to fix this I got married at 18 and met my husband at 17 he is 8 years older then me . I kinda feel like as I am growing up more i don't like him and i actually see how immature and stupid he is . He does some really dumb things for being a 30 year old man . I know I love him but I fill like I am not fully in love with him anymore . Is this just cause i am growing up or is this something normal that happens in marriage ?
2007-06-14 19:09:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really need to talk to him.
People constantly change, so you always need to work on being married.tell him that things annoy you. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that there are things that he isn't doing for you.
Then listen to what he has to say. However, nothing will happen unless both of you are willing to work at being better for each other.
And remember, complaining is not talking!
2007-06-14 19:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with growing up. 18 too young for marriage. Well, you can love your husband, however, if you don't find yourself being in love then that's a problem. You don't want to be unhappy just because you love him. A man would never change, they get weird by the hour.lol. Have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel. I mean if he cares, he'll understand and try to understand your point. well this is all I could come up with. Never been married. Anyways, good luck and hopefully you can find a way to fix this issue. :-)
2007-06-15 02:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Angelys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes strong, grows weak, then grows and comes back in any relationship. Stop criticising everything the guy does. You are not that grown up, you are not the end all of what is correct or acceptable. IF you cannot get along after a suitable period, then get a divorce and be more careful in the future as to your choices. Good luck
2007-06-15 02:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in maturity, there are going to be a lot more things over time that you'll see and dislike but will get use too. The main thing is to acknowledge these issues as they happen so, you won't make a mountain out of a mole hill.
2007-06-15 02:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this happens sometimes! Especially when they make you mad for some reason! Besides you got married very young, and its possible that you wonder sometimes how it is to be with somebody else....but then when everything is fine you realize how much you love this person...If you don't love him....then you should divorce, because youre going to be unhappy and you will make him unhappy too! If you love him....don't worry...I guess it is normal! My husband gets on my nerves at times too!!! :)
2007-06-15 02:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by sExXy_MeXi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can like someone else you have to like yourself. So, learn to love yourself, to accept yourself without judgment, and you will find the secret to true happiness. Once you learn to love yourself, to fully accept yourself, then the opinions of other don't matter any more, the conduct of others doesn't bother you and you can find happiness being with yourself. Also, you will make choices that honor you. So, does your choice of partners honor you? Doesn't sound like it. Talk with him and discuss what bothers you. Ask what bothers him. Is the marriage worth saving? Do you want to save it? Does he? Find out and act accordingly.
2007-06-15 02:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it hasn't happened to me and never will. I love my man and always will. We are very close and get along real well. n
It might be normal in some couples, but it takes work. n
2007-06-15 02:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are getting lazy in your relationship. Love isn't just a feeling it is an action you need to do actual work you need to actually love him!! It sounds like you aren't as mature as he thinks you are.
2007-06-15 02:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the reason people say dont get married that young. you still have alot of things to learn...
2007-06-15 02:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend Bailey said "all the time".
2007-06-15 02:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋