A couple months ago I made friends with a neighbor of mine, we'll call her P. As time went by I realized P wasn't exactly...right. She's a drama queen, a compulsive liar, and she can't keep stuff straight in her head. I don't know whether the worst part was when she accused me of cheating on my husband, went psycho when I called the cops because she hit her daughter, or accused my friend of trying to hit a pregnant woman. She's an alcoholic and now she's in rehab, which is good. However, a mutual friend told me that P's husband has been talking smack about how they're going to sue us for slander (it's not slander when it's all true) and get my husband demoted (both hubbies are in the army). He can't do either, it's all bs, but I do worry that they're going to attempt a confrontation when she gets back from rehab. If they come over, any suggestions on what to do?
2007-06-14 19:02:10 · 14 answers · asked by Miraculous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't want to ignore them if they come over, 1. because they make it hard to ignore them. 2. Because the more trouble they get themselves into the better chance I have at a restraining order (I've previously filed harassment complaints). There's pepper spray if needed, but I don't think it will get that far. However, in terms of whether it works to my advantage to talk to them so they say the wrong things so that I can file more complaints, I'm not exactly sure. On the one hand, I don't want to deal with it, but on the other I have no doubt that unless outside authority is involved this situation is going to continue, in which case I want all the evidence I can gather that they're the instigators and that a restraining order could come into play. I really want these people out of my life, however far I have to go. I don't want to feel uncomfortable in my own home area because they're there too (they live across the street). I'd rather have it out than worry about when it will happen.
2007-06-14 19:08:19 · update #1
We live on a military post, and I got lucky in that my immediate neighbors are amazing people who don't gossip and don't start drama. I became friends with her because when I met her she said that she was really lonely and needed a friend. Last time I try to be nice. A lot of people here have nothing better to do than spread lies and create drama. I'm moving in August already, which is awesome, but I have to be able to deal with it until then. Hopefully nothing will come of this and they'll drop it too, but I'm not expecting much from the women who called me 30 times and left me 14 nasty messages between 11PM and 6AM. She likes arguing because in her mind it's proving that she's right, which is why I don't want to get into it, but I worry if we don't have that one confrontation when she gets back we'll just be walking on ice until it finally happens.
2007-06-14 19:16:12 · update #2
Move to another trailer park?
2007-06-14 19:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all, good luck... You should honestly find a way of getting a restraining order against all of them to make sure you are cover on that part. If they start problems, call the cops right away and your husband should report it to his commander (or whoever he reports to) at least for it to be record. If you have kids, make them aware of the situation the best way possible and try for them not to be seen by the psychos... I mean I never had something like that, but just cover your behind before she gets out... Hope everything works out!!!
2007-06-15 02:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Angelys 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! End the drama.
I've had to abruptly cut all ties with people a few times. You have to firmly ignore them. Dont respond to anything they say.. not a hello, dont give them any responce to anything no matter how ticked off you are, no matter how guilty you feel. Just dont respond to them. Dont even look their way. If they call your house, pick up the phone only to hang it back up. Say nothing.
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Get a restraining order and if your neighbors are really close, maybe they'll be forced to move.
I just read the section that you added. Dont let them come over. I had to lock this one couple out of my house. They had the nerve to climb up onto the carport and try to crawl in the upstairs window. I had to use firm and colorful language on them and push their _ss out the window so I could lock it. But I got them out of my house and I haven't had anything to do with them for 6 years now.
2007-06-15 02:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Just Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid them as much as possible. If they do something or get confrontational call the cops and possibly look into getting a restraining order. People are psycho nowadays, just be vigilant.
2007-06-15 02:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by jade_143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stop them at the door, tell them that their being friends or entering your house is NOT a good idea, and they are not welcome...simple, straight to the point. IF they make a stench about it, call the police and take out a restraining order. Not everything need be forgiven, especially from crackpots.
2007-06-15 02:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, don't let them in and call the police. Second, if it keeps happening, get a restraining order. Other than that, I would cut all ties with them. If you have to, tell them forget your alive and you'll return the favor!
2007-06-15 02:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move if you can't avoid them. That is why I never get involved in any of my neighbor's business. My friends aren't my neighbors because, just like with family, they live too close and want to know too much of your business!!
2007-06-15 02:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure u r NEVER alone. Children don't count. Make sure ur always with adults.
2007-06-15 02:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"they tried to make me go to rehab, but i said no no no."
Amy Winehouse
lol.
2007-06-15 02:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lock the door
2007-06-15 02:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by timeoutformiesha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋