I am going through a divorce, and my wife won't let me go. I love her so much, but she keeps cheating on me. so I left her after 8 months of marriage. I want to move on but she keeps calling me and telling me she wants me so I always jump to be with her I love her so but it just leads to more pain. how can I get over her..
2007-06-14 18:33:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cut her off...stop taking her calls and falling for her BS.
Wise up and move on....she's a cheater, liar, and bad news for your self-esteem.
She's keeping you on a string and playing games with you....
if you really want to move on you will.
2007-06-14 18:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, change your number, and don't give the new one to her. You know she is not calling you back because she loves you, otherwise she would not have cheated.She is simply playing games with you, and boosting her own ego with the knowledge that she can play you like a puppet. I know how this must be hurting you, but honestly, you would be far better off having nothing further to do with her. It will not hurt forever, and one day soon, you will look back, and wonder how you could ever have let her play you that way. The pain will go away, as soon as you relaise that you deserve to be loved by an honest person, who will care for, and about you. Good luck.
2007-06-14 22:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know she can't be honest right? You need to grow a backbone my friend and learn some english words, like a loud and clear "NO!". Stop wasting your time on a cheat and find yourself someone who also wants someone honest. Consider yourself lucky that you found all of this out early in the marriage, instead of 25 years from now when the grandchildren are coming into your world. This is a blessing in disquise, but you have to learn to stop being so convient for her. Good luck.
2007-06-14 18:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would face the facts for what they are, you wouldn't keep jumping when she calls. If she cheats, then just imagine her being with another man while she's talking to you, which is what you can't tolerate because you'll trying to divorce her. If you actually saw her with another guy, maybe you would be able to deal with the situation better. She's going to keep you dangling as long as she has power over you.
2007-06-14 18:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry because i know that hurts. you need to ask yourself if you are prepared to live like this for another year. another 5 years. another 10. if she's cheated on you after 8 months, it's not going to get any easier for you. when you jump to be with her, you keep hoping things will be when you first were with her. you have to remind yourself that that probably wasn't the way it really ever was. do you think you'd ever get over her multiple infidelities, even if she stopped right now? no matter what you do, it's going to hurt. i just think you have to save yourself right now. cut your losses and heal. in time you'll find someone who respects herself enough to have self control and commitment to a future. this is about her, not you. when someone cheats like this-- this chronic way, it's about her. don't make the mistake of thinking that you could have prevented it or can anticipate it and head it off. this is her fatal flaw, and you can't fix it.
2007-06-14 18:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, Please tell me you never knew of her cheating before you got married.
Nothing but time and distance will help you get over her. Move. Dont give her your phone# and dont ever call her or visit her and dont let her visit you. Just flick her _ss to the curb and never look back.
But really, I dont understand how you can love a person who cheats on you repeatedly.
2007-06-14 18:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Just Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go it ain't easy but obviously she don't care for you if shes hurting you. The pain that you have,is pain your searching for by going back with her. - You will love many times in your life-
2007-06-14 18:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by nenamexicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up and be counted how many times does she knock you down before you realise ,that enough is enough it's hard but beleive me it has to be done cut her off from your emotions..you deserve more and sound like you gave her enough chances..â¥
2007-06-15 18:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will begin to get over her when you believe that you deserve better and refuse to get into situations that cause you pain, grief and misery.
2007-06-14 18:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her calls, grieve your loss-it is a must, and move on. it will hurt and be extremely painful but you have to do it if you truly want to move on. she is addicted to her ability to control your emotions, don't let her. good luck to you.
2007-06-14 18:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋