(assuming you're both attracted and get along well)
2007-06-14 17:58:02 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO WAY... i am twenty yo now and that person will be 40
then if i turn 40 and that person will be old and ugly..
2007-06-14 18:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely!! My parents have a 21 year age difference and my best friend and her husband have a 20 year age difference. And they are both great couples. Age doesn't matter if you love and care about each other!!!
You just have to remember that there is a 20 year age difference and you will have to accept some of the things that go along with that like: having children or not having children, aging... he's going to get there way before you, sickness, etc. But if you truly love each other these won't be obstacles , they'll be hurdles and you'll have each other every step of the way.
By the way if you 15 asking about dating a 35 year old then this doesn't apply. He's way to old for you and you really have nothing in common at this point in your life.
2007-06-14 18:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Nasty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
20 years... 10 years. What is the difference? If you have feelings for someone older than you and they have been admiring you as well and you two have grea conversation then why should age matter. As long as the two people connect well. Some people have to have an open mind about these things and try to hold the age difference over their heads. Once you talk to someone much older than you... you feeling comfortable will fade that age difference away and the person that sits infront of you is as an equal.
2007-06-21 20:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by tasha_boulware 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your use of the word "willing" implies doubt on your part. Be sure you are doing the right thing, not just willing to do it. Twenty years, depending on your ages now, could turn into an issue. Being attracted and getting along well makes for good dating, it's not enough for a loving, committed, lasting marriage. Make sure your eyes are wide open, that the two of you have talked about everything that could possibly be an obstacle or that you have the slightest doubts about. Be open and thoughtful and you will make the right decision for you. Best wishes.
2007-06-14 18:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say, "willing", does this mean someone has arranged this marriage? I don't believe that arranged marriages are good for anyone, you don't go into the marriage loving the person, you may learn to love them, but is that really a "marriage". I am in my 40's, and if I happened to fall in love with a man who was 20 years older then myself, absolutely, I would marry him or live my life with him. Age is only a number, love is what a marriage is based on.
2007-06-20 07:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually did marry a man 25 years older than me. It worked out beautifully, we had a very happy marriage for 4 years, until he died from cancer. My one sister is married to a man 23 years older than she is, and they have 3 beautiful little boys together, and are still very happily married. It all comes down to personalities, not age. My husband was, and my brother in law is, very young for their age. People with such an age gap do think slightly differently, and the men are rather more set in their ways, but if you both agree to differ on certain things, then it should work out as well as it did for my sister and I.
2007-06-14 22:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not! The most important thing is that you get along well and are both attracted to each other. YYou may be of the same age but if you're not compatible and frequently clash, it will not be a healthy relationship.
2007-06-22 03:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by confused lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is a state of mind. I would rather love someone 20 years older then me, then not get to love at all.
2007-06-22 07:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by ladybisket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess, love has no number. as long as both of you are over the legal age. I don't think a 16 year old should be with someone that old. an immature heart shouldn't be played with and if you're young, stay with someone closer to your age.
2007-06-21 15:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by cleobaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is a hard question. I mean marriage is a long time right.. Well I guess if two people love each other and they are willing to commit to each other then yeah, age is only a number. I mean my wife is only six years older then I am. well hope that helped..
2007-06-21 00:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by jason l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I dated a guy 17 years older than myself and it was not a healthy relationship. Men who are older, as women, are more set in their ways and have the "it's my way or the highway" mentality, they are less likely to compromise and I feel that is a major part of any healthy relationship.
2007-06-20 16:35:13 · answer #11 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋