i am married, nothing is wrong with my husband..BUT suddenly one man came into my life which made me fall....Ive tried many times to avoid this guy but my heart cannot. I still love my husband but I cannot stop myself too from falling inlove with this guy..pls help!
2007-06-14 17:06:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
shamely speaking, i cheated my husband! I am now trying to fix everything but it is damn hard!
2007-06-14 17:23:35 · update #1
and this new guy doesnt even know that I am damn married!!!shame to me!
2007-06-14 17:34:29 · update #2
Sometimes a new person sees us in a way we don't think our partner does anymore. A new person doesn't have to pick up our socks, or be nagged to take out trash and has the advantage of being ...well new. We like new things, we trade old cars in, buy a new dress for a special event and we like new people in our lives as they seem so interested in us, in our story.
If you really love your husband, you have to leave this other man alone. Your husband can't compete in a race he doesn't know he is in, and he has the disadvantage of being old and familiar.
Forgive yourself for indulging in a little self esteem and ego food, and decide if you are a woman who holds on to her marriage.
2007-06-14 17:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was truly in love with you he would divorce his wife and be committed to you always. What he is doing is telling you what you want to hear. This does not mean he has not developed some feelings for you. After all, even a brand new toy brings us some type of joy. What it means is that he has affection for you cause you are there to ease his boredom at home and he gets his ego stroked from having you care so much for him. On the other hand, if he were so happily married then he would not be cheating on his wife. Something is wrong at home for him to feel the need to stray. Whatever the need he has to stray you are filling in up for him. He cares, but not so much he will be willing to leave his wife and face the consequences that come from a divorce. Either way hun, you are putting yourself in harms way by allowing yourself to settle for seconds. He belongs to his wife, even though he shares his body with you. Why put yourself through this? If he is telling you he is happily married he is doing so to let you know from the get go that he has not plans on leaving his wife. You got into this with your eyes wide open and so he feels you have no right to ask him for anything more than what he is giving to you. Personally, I would want all or nothing. Trust me, he also shares a bed with his wife and she also is getting some of his loving too. How can you settle for this? The guy is having the best of both worlds and you are allowing him to. Be kind to yourself and get back to living life with respect and dignity and you will find a man that will be your own, not one you have to share with a wife. God bless and take care of yourself because if you don't no one else will.
2016-04-01 08:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you, sister. First, decide whether or not you want to keep your marriage. Here's what helped me. I told my husband I was lonely and needed more time with him, and he was happy to do so (a great reason alone to fall in more love with him!). Then I fought hard. Avoid the guy, or if you work together, avoid time with him. If you fantasize about him, substitute your husband doing the same thing. Love, sex and attraction are mostly in the brain, so you have the power to do this! Thirdly, keep in mind you are comparing your husband unfairly. I used to do a mental line up of my husband and any other possible guy, and found that my husband (when fairly compared) always won out! You chose him for a reason. Sacrificing this want or temptation is a great gift you do for your husband, and only you will know. You will love yourself and him, more for it. Good luck.
2007-06-14 17:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have different layers like physical, mental, intellectual, spiritual, emotional... to satisfied all these layers we explore many things as well as we interact with many beings... now at intellectual layer we read or listen to many people to entertain as well as to grow our intellectual being... in the same way when we feel that emotionally we need more growth then with one person its difficult so automatically our subconscious minds start searching for someone.. and out of blue someone appears and we feel that what is going on but its a great process just make sure you are happy and growing there is nothing right or wrong its a growth process...
2007-06-14 17:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by jeevanpremi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to find other people attractive, even if you are happily married. However, a smart person would recognize a situation that had the potential to get out of hand and nip it in the bud. If you're finding yourself uncontrollably attracted to another person and want to keep your marriage intact, then you avoid that other person at all costs!
2007-06-14 17:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by sarah314 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something lacking in the relationship you have with your husband if you find yourself wanting to be with this other man... theres something about him thats different from your husband, or how your husband makes you feel, thats the attraction.
2007-06-14 17:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would it make you feel if your husband had the same dilema? Either honor your husband by being faithful to him as you promised when you were married or divorce him so he doesn't have to be humiliated by you.
2007-06-14 17:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ronin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The temptation is hard i am freinds witih a married lady and i have alllowed her to open herself up to me and express herself we are freinds but sometimes it is really hard on her and I
2007-06-14 18:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by texas_dud88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean falling this guy? you want sex with him? How about with your husband? too much!
2007-06-14 17:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like food.
u will not like to eat the same healthy food everyday throughout your life.
U WILL BE TEMPTED TO TO EAT JUNK FOOD SOMEDAY .
but still u will like your daily food.
2007-06-14 17:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by undhyu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋