2007-06-14 16:42:59 · 13 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Pure love? Committed love? Lifelong love?
NO!
Love is not a struggle, it is a gift. You cannot take love, you cannot steal it, Love has to be given.
If there is competition, then someone is demanding something that is not being given and regardless of who wins, the end result will be the same.
NO LOVE.
If this is you competing for someone else, remember one famous cliche...."If you love something , set it free, if it comes back, it is yours, if it doesn't, it never was".
Love follows you everywhere and all you have to do is realise it and accept it. Try to fight for it or lay claim to it and it will forever illude you.
2007-06-14 21:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by seychellesdreaming 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The word "love" meant different thing to different people. When we say "Some people love to compete", there is love there also. When two men court one beautiful woman, there might be a competition but whoever wins the heart of that woman is the winner. People who love sports like to practice and practice either in basketball, boxing etc. hoping they will win in the day of competition. There, there is love. But what particular love that confuses you where you are able to question in love?
2007-06-14 18:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by periclesundag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought by answering your other questions that this one would make more sense to me but it remains some what of a puzzlement as to how you are relating love with competition.
The first thing that comes to mind is monogamy, which implied possession, and therefore competition for that possession. I can see how one might wonder if in choosing only one lover they might in fact be misinterpreting love or in some way avoiding true love, but there are many forms or degrees of love so you can have a relationship with one person that you construe as love and may that you perceive as kinships or friendships or relationships. Love is not so narrowly defined that it cannot allow for a little variety in life.
The second thing that comes to mind is the thought that you are talking within a relationship between lovers, can they compete with one another, and I don't see why not unless they take it to extremes. People do take competition to extremes. You could even try and out love your lover, show him/her that you care more for them than they care for you, which could be a problem if in doing so you forget what love is all about.
Which brings me to the third thing, sex, the physical manification of love. It is easy to get competitive about sex, forgetting the trust and communication, the naked honesty that joins to individuals in a simple pleasure and reveals to them that this person they are with can touch their very soul at times. It is easy to get consumed with the idea that you can make another feel so blissful that they will feel that the two of you are one. The question is when you go to the extremes of sex do you crossover from theat shared feeling of intimacy to a solitary feeling of heightened sexual awareness? Do you suddenly stop being in love and start being solely about the sex? There is a Godlike sensation there at the extreme.
But this brings me back to my original thought, there are many degrees of love. Even that Godlike sensation is a form of love. It just isn't the one you are expecting.
The only other thing I can come up with is love in the broadest terms, agape, or fraternal love. If all you are asking is will competition lead to the end of that sort of love, the answer is no. It might transfigure the boundaries of that type of love but it will not obliterate love all together. Even in hatred one can find love exists so competition is no great obstacle to love.
2007-06-15 02:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the type of competition
2007-06-14 16:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Don W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah. I think that competition can add a lot to a relationship.
2007-06-14 17:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Zak K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question.... Star!!
We are all the time competing with ourselves because of our desire ever to excel....... and we love ourselves so deeply that we can not love anyone else as much.
Barring this one exception, one has to be a really poor competitor to love the one he/she is competing with...... but when that happens, competition virtually ceases.
2007-06-15 01:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. In love you are trying to help each other succeed and in competition you are trying to prevent it. They are polar opposites.
2007-06-14 20:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I worked with a boyfriend for a few years. We loved trying to one-up each other...very sexy.
2007-06-14 17:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by Helena Handbasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - some people even compete for love do they not? Pax - C
2007-06-14 16:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Persiphone_Hellecat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is very above all these things.... competition, jealousy, envy......
you would feel happier if the one you love does better than you....
2007-06-14 23:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by in search of utopia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋