How stupid, right?

Question

I'm a 36 y/o guy in a 3 year relationship with a 42 year old guy. We just closed on a house in the midst of our tumultuous relationship issues ( we argue a lot, we are totally different, our ideologies seem extremely opposite, we haven't had intercourse, he is uptight, gets angry at the simplest things, always challenges everything I say, and he is set in his ways). I am optimistic, always try to help him, fix dinner everynight and tell him how much I care for him daily. When he gets into his moods and becomes an a$$hole, I just hate it, especially when it's directed towards me. Basically, we are worlds different and I just bought this house with him knowing that it was a mistake. How stupid, right? He can be the greatest guy when he wants to, but when he is an a$$hole he can really be a big a$$hole. We haven't had sex in about a year.He doesn't want me to leave. I love and care for him a great deal but I want to get out of the relationship and I don't know how. Any advice?

Answer 1

I just got of a relationship kinda like this...I packed my stuff and left...It was like i was in prison and i paroled myself...

Answer 2

Life is too short to not bound out of bed in the morning and be excited about your life. You know what the problems are in the relationship and honestly, it can't all be about him. You need to own up to your half of the relationship first. After you do that, if you can discuss things like adults and work on them then by all means, give it a shot. Put a time limit on it and if things don't improve in that time you should sell the house and move on. We can't change others, just our reactions to others. Is there a reason he's so moody? Is he stressed out about something? Maybe he's feeling as stuck as you feel. Talk to him when he's having a calm moment and see where things are headed. If you can't work it out, get out on your own and start living your life exactly how you want to! Good luck :)

Answer 3

I assume you've told him how you feel? If not, that's the place to start. If you have and he just doesn't care, you have your answer. When you find that special someone (and I do believe they exist) you'll know. Everyone has their bad moments, but certainly not all the time. Find someone who will respect you and have more good times than bad.

Answer 4

ok, this is a destructive relationship if I've ever heard of one. sounds like you guys need to split, sell the place and move on and find happiness. good luck

Answer 5

if he ever cared for u, then may be u can consider to stay, but ask him not to be a bummer coz u dont like that. i think there could be an understanding between both of u.

Answer 6

Homosexuality is wrong. But you know that. You shouldn't be living with another man and especially shouldn't be having sex with him. You should move out and stop doing these bad things. If you doubt what I say, read the Holy Bible and find out what God says about it. Hurry! Time is short! You are not promised another moment. I hope you find the right way before it is too late. You should be more worried about your eternity after death and where you will be spending it. It will be your choice. I hope you make the right one.

Answer 7

Hey...what's easily bought....is more easily sold. Sell the place, buy your own and get away. Sounds like he only be nice when he wants something....think about it. Your not his Sugardaddy are you?

Answer 8

Leave him ...besides...you are not getting any younger....why sacrificing your precious life next to the ultimate git in town?

Answer 9

leave. this isn't a relationship--its a life sentence.

Get a parole.

Answer 10

You are a guy and he is also a guy. what is the relation are you talking about i think you are a gay and talking about another gay am i right?