I've made the worst mistake of my life by trying to help my brother for my mother's sake.?

Question

My brother talked me into starting a business with my Credit (at the time I had a 800+score). Now, 10 months later I'm $89k+ in debt & he's too busy with moving his women in or out or trying to win custody of his kids or something all the time & now he wants to do something else. My Mother is a wonderful person who is old, worries excessively & only has 5% of her heart working. My brother lost custody of his kids to his X who is schizophrenic & for the past 12 years had a NO-CONTACT ORDER with the kids, all due to incompetent attorney failing to appear twice. Of course, our Mother doesn’t know he lost the kids, so in turn; not only am I lying to her, but I’m also picking up his legal fees. I just found out that he’s been doing business under the table & using company money. Compounded with my soon to be X who ran my home equity line up $65K during 1 of his manic episodes, I’m looking for work, but at my age, retired army officer or not..it’s slim pickens. I don't want to sell the farm

Answer 1

good luck with that. it sounds like you have your plate full. just make your brother pay you and threaten to take him to court. do not tell your mother because this could be bad for her. i am very sorry. just try to stay optimistic and good luck :)

Answer 2

After this fiasco, it doesn't sound like you will have to sell the farm. You will lose it on your own. All I can say is that you now have to live with the consequences of your rash and silly decision to get involved in this mess.

I can think of NO reason why any rational person would have done what you did.

Good luck.