what should i do about my boyfriend wanting kids before he is 18?

Question

what should i do about my boyfriend wanting kids before he turns 18 in oct. im 21 and he wants kids from me already . its really hard to say no to him because we are both vrigins . i want to have kids but im not ready i tryed telling him but he wont listen to me. some one please tell me what to do .

Answer 1

hey girl. i believe your situation is quite interesting. I think your boyfriend and you are not ready for a child, since you both are still young. The best idea, I think you and your boyfriend should talk about the positive and negative things about raising a child. I think your your bf is not financially stable, and having a child means money going down. I think he should respect your decisions because you're the one who will have to go through 9 months of preganancy. Also, keep your options open. Good luck.

Answer 2

gurl im a virgin 2 and im satisfied with it because there are 2 many diseases out here 2 just be having sex like that
plus im waiting on the right one and that is when im married
but u r only 21 u have a whole life ahead of u u shouldnt be thinking about kids and if so consider the ? like am i emotionally and financially stable for children. also follow ur heart if u dont want kids right now its ur body and if he loves u he would understand
also do u even have assurance that if u have his kid he would do his job and stay around
do u have assurance u would be with him 2 yrs from now
im not saying u wont but u do have to think about things like that
but congragulations on staying a virgin this long it should be more females that way
just make the right decision 4 u and not him

Answer 3

There are dolls out there that behave very much like real babies. Spend a month taking care of the "baby" including diapers, feeding, bathing and all the stuff that goes with it.

Make a budget and figure in all the expenses including rent, food, car and medical insurance, babysitting and the expenses of real life.

In this experiment include two days of zero sleep and the rest of the nights he gets to have 2-4 hours of sleep and go on to work all day. Search the newspaper ads to find out prices of some of these things and start putting a picture together of what taking care of an infant is really like.

He might think himself ready to be a parent but is the baby ready for him? When considering having a baby......someone needs to be able to put the baby's needs and future first. Wanting a baby is nice but completely unfair and cruel to the child if consideration of meeting those needs aren't considered first.

Answer 4

Get on birth control now. Just because you both lost each others virginity doesn't mean you too are soul mates. You guys are too young and still have some life to live. You two need to enjoy each other while you can without kids, because once that happens everything changes for the rest of your life. There are too many details about how your life changes with kids. I wish I can take a poop with out them coming in or knocking at the door. Think about it! Is he willing to do 50/50

Answer 5

RUN! and fast. But seriously u know your not ready now and kids r a big committment. You can't just drop them off. Talk to your boyfriend and explain your feelings . Maybe suggest u babysit a baby for a couple of hours so he realises how much hard work it is. Kids and babies r fun but when their your responsibility 100% of the time a little of the fun goes away.

Answer 6

If you really love each other both of you must compromise on what each others like. He won't listen to you, you can't say no to him and you are not yet ready to have a kid. Lucky enough because you are both virgins but love has deeper meaning one of you must sacrifice if you really love each other. I think you really love your bf because you can't say no to him even your not yet ready. If no one of you will give most likely your relationship will not work. You are being challenged now by your bf. Think it over. Can you take it if your bf leaves you because you're not yet ready to give him a child and willing to find another guy that your going to love instead. Think several times because you are running out of time before he reaches 18. If you can't afford to lose him you have no choice but to give him a child even your not ready yet. Try asking a sign maybe it might help you to decide on what do.

Answer 7

Tell him you have to be a joined force in having a family./kids. That he has to understand and respect the fact that you arent ready. Hun, having kids ais a really big thing (as I'm sure you know). And youtwo are just dating right now. If he doesnt repsect the fact taht your not ready and your not even married. Maybe its tiem to look over this relationship. hope this helped.

Answer 8

18? Jesus Christ! Have you ever considered the costs of raising a kid?

This is another human being we're talking about, and if it was my kid, I'd think long and hard, because I wouldn't want him/her to live my life now.

Please remember that it is your responsiblity to give that kid the best life you could give. No way you can do that at 18...

...unless one of you's a Movie Star, NBA player, or a Saudi Prince.

Please think about it. And tell HIM to think about it.

Answer 9

Seems you are comitting statutory rape if you are having sex with someone under 18. The law works both ways, Girls/Women can be charges the same as a guy can. May be this will cool his interest or yours if you end up in jail.

Answer 10

Well I for sure wouldnt have kids until you are ready, kids are great but they take up a lot of time and can add lots of stress. Talk to him about it again maybe, and if he cant accept it then maybe you should rethink your relationship. You deserve someone who values your opinions and wants what is best for you.