Why waste time? This has always amazed me as to how some people truly think they are getting something out of a situation like this. There are plenty of singles in this world so why bother with an individual who is already taken and has no interest in reciprocating all that lost effort? What are some of your thoughts? (Thanks God I've never experienced this however know of quite a few people who have had the unfortunate chance of going through nonsense hell like this--whew!)
2007-06-14 14:16:52 · 12 answers · asked by drcuriousiity 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I can tell you why people do that. It's because it's safe. They know the married person won't leave their spouse, so they will never have to be fully involved. Even though it ends in empty relationships, it still feels the need that they need at the time.
2007-06-14 14:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by supersonic 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's so sad, isn't it. People are always thinking that the grass is greener on the other side, when really it's brown and dying and will kill you along with it.
People go around thinking "if I could just have that (insert whatever here) then I would be happy". They don't stop to think how it will affect others, or if they do, they choose to ignore it. The truth is though, it won't make them happy. It will make them miserable. In the end, it's our choice, if you know it will hurt someone, don't do it. It should be that simple, right? But it never is. I guess the moral of the story is be wise about who you date and/or marry. Avoid the jerks and trust the advice that you get from people who love you, that's the only way I know how to avoid going through something like that. My thoughts? Avoid the needy and selfish when looking for a partner, because those are the people who will put themselves before you.
2007-06-14 14:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuantly, people try to pursue a relationship with someone that is married because that person is already emotionally attached to someone else (their wife/husband) and some perceive that as a good thing. Usually someone that has been hurt deeply in their past ( Just as Susan L said, some people with low self esteem don't believe they deserve a real, lasting relationship) and they are looking for a companion but someone that already has their cards on the table. They both go into this relationship without high expectations and not expecting anything to come out of it besides a good time.
But then, of course, the sideline person starts to develop feelings.....and ya'll know the rest!
2007-06-14 14:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jade | My Brain is My Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah, Marriage can be a great blessing and a benefit for men and women, as well as protection from committing sin. That being said, in this world of over 6 billion people, there are those individuals who are less in need of marrying. For instance, a woman may enjoy her career and freedom and may not have a great desire for sexual relations or children. Since she does not need a man for support, sex, or kids, she feels no urgent need to marry, especially because one has to make many compromises in marriage and the woman is often pressured, overtly or tacitly, to be the submissive one who ends up serving the other. If you HONESTLY feel you are relatively safe from the temptations of zinah (fornication) and that you do not at this time yearn for children, and you can build up a career, then there is no reason at all for you to rush to get married. Enjoy your life and don't do anything that will cause you regret. We all mature and change over time, and you may find that in a few years or so your priorities are changing as well. At that time you might wish to settle down and that's fine, too. Or you may just be one of those women who doesn't feel the need to marry, and there is nothing wrong with that. You are you; you shouldn't have to live according to someone else's script. But don't be surprised later if the script changes a bit. Keep your options open and your mind open. Live as a strong Muslim woman, and whether single or married, then inshAllah you will be rewarded by Allah. And Allah knows best. fi Aman Allah, Nancy Umm Abdel Hamid
2016-05-20 22:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people with low self esteem don't believe they deserve a real, lasting relationship.
Some people with low morals/values don't care as long as they get their rocks off.
Some people enjoy the thrill of getting away with something.
Some people realize that as long as they, themselves are single - they aren't cheating on anyone. If an unfaithful person is open to this type of advance, why not take advantage of it?
Some people don't care how much pain and misery they inflict on a family. They are self-centered and self-absorbed enough to think that it's OK.
Some people have given up hope of finding a single to match up with and will glom onto any available companionship they can find. I feel bad for those folks. They end up alone on holidays.
2007-06-14 14:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Susan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know where you are coming from and I only date a married man once. For fun, nothing else. It was not a great choice, but at least I was honest to myself about it. I also happen to know the other side of the story - about people, who allow to get involved. They do so for various reasons: 1) being naive or pure stupid; 2) having 0 emotional intelligence; 3) people, who are not capable of serious relationships find it convenient to date unavailable people (whether it is conscious or not); 4) people, who happen to fall in love for the wrong person.
2007-06-14 14:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main reason single people get involved with married people is because its safe.The single person has a relationship with no strings attached,they know they wont have to answer to the person that they are cheating with.Simply put most people think that they want a commitment but do not(its safe for them to be with someone who is married)I do not agree with cheating,but everyone has there own beliefs.
2007-06-14 15:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey 33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do it hoping to gain the money, whatever a couple has earned during a marriage. There is a lot of greed in this world and a lot of people looking for an easy fast buck.
2007-06-14 14:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are idiots and fools out there that think it is just a game. So they don't care if they hurt another ones feeling.
I consider them lower than slime. I should stop here before I get real nasty.
2007-06-14 14:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by ernc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the good ones are always taken, and the only ones left are handicapped or reserved.
2007-06-14 14:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋