why couldn't I. females only please?

Question

I am post-op ts m-f and always wanted to be female. Yes I did it years ago and I am quite happy with it, but I have missed out on so much, what I am is a copy and could never have children or anything like that. I answer questions on here advising about the subject but I feel so sad because I am not a true woman. I truly would loved to have had a child.

Answer 1

It's what you feel on this inside that matters.

http://www.ukadoption.com/

read this:
An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots; each hung
on the ends of a pole which she carried across her
neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot
was perfect and always delivered a full portion of
water.

At the end of the long walks from the stream to the
house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the
woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its
accomplishments.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own
imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half
of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be bitter
failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.
"I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side
causes water to leak out all the way back to your
house."

The old woman smiled, "Did you notice that there are
flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other
pot's side?"

"That's because I have always known about your flaw,
so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path,
and every day while we walk back, you water them."

"For two years I have been able to pick these
beautiful flowers to decorate the table.

Without you being just the way you are, there would
not be this beauty to grace the house."

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it's the
cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives
together so very interesting and rewarding.

You've just got to take each person for what they are
and look for the good in them.

SO, to all of my crackpot friends, have a great day
and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the
path!

Answer 2

There are plenty of people who feel that carrying a child to term and raising their own biological child is a very fulfulling and life afirming achievement for a woman.
There are also many women who have no desire to have children, least of all to afirm themselves as a woman.
It is understandable that you feel disapointed that you cannot have this experience because it is part of what been born a biological female is about, but many biological females are also not granted this experiance for many reasons ... infertility and cancer for example.
Although you may feel like a copy of a woman you are in most ways a real woman, this is defined by gender and gender is not dictated by biology it is in the ways we live and act.
If you want children you should adopt, there are many children who were not fortunate enough to have parents who were able to raise them and love them and it would be a great gift to them if you gave them that by adopting, you can still be every bit a fantastic mother even if the child is not biologically yours.

Answer 3

your value as a women isn't measured by the fact that you have had or could have a child. While I love being a mother and wouldn't trade it for the world; I also know many women who can have children but just prefer not to. as well as born women who can't have children. If you feel you are a woman and you can play the role- live that is, as we all do, than as far as any (or at least most) of us are concerned, you are one :) so congrats;)
also you could always adopt a child? there are many kids who need someone as loving and understanding as you seem to be with an interest in raising a child.

Answer 4

I feel your pain. I'm in the same boat. I'm a transsexual (still pre-op) but of course cant' have kids. There are kids out there that need homes and a mom. You can be that for them. You may have missed out on pregnancy, but you can be a mom. Lots of females can't have kids and adoption is a wonderful thing. Check out the question I posted about how to cope with not being able to have kids. I had a lot of people answer that had adopted or been adopted. You're awesome and I'm sure a kid would love to have an awesome mom like you who isn't afraid of being who they are. Chin up girl, all isn't lost.

Answer 5

Being female is full of amazing and interesting experiences such as a first date, school prom, your wedding day, giving birth etc etc. It must have been aweful not being born with this destiny however you have done something about it. So few people will understand the courage you have had for your journey.

The most important thing is you have done something about it and look forward to the rest of your life. We all have regrets but we must look forward

You are in a unique position of being able to be truely grateful for being female as many girls would appriciate their femininity far more had they been through what you have.

Finally, from what you have said I believe you are a true woman.

Answer 6

Not being able to have children doesn't make you any less of a woman. It's what's in your heart that matters. You can always try and adopt a child that needs a home.

Answer 7

You are still a women. No matter if you can have children or if you can not have children. There are many females out there who can not have children. If you would truly like to have a child, adopt. There are tons of children out there who need someone to love them. And all that matters is if you feel like you are a women.

Answer 8

Dear, you are just as true a woman as anyone born with "indoor plumbing." Ask yourself: Is a woman suddenly not a woman if she has had a mastectomy or hysterectomy? Is it her body or her sense of identity that makes her a woman? I am a heterosexual born female woman, and I would still be one regardless of any alteration of my body. It's not the equipment--it's WHO I AM. And it's who you are, too. And the desire to become a parent has nothing to do with sexual orientation. One day soon science will provide a way for women just like you to become parents. They are already discovering how to make skin cells behave like stem cells. But until that day, why not consider adopting a child?

Answer 9

Sensual, you are a women, both in body and mind, and you should not feel less of a woman because you cannot have children, a lot of women who are born a woman cannot have children, they either have IVF, or adopt, and in this day and age all people are allowed to adopt, even two gay men, or single, so if you want to go down that avenue just ring social services for an adoption/fostering interview. your just as good as anyone who wants this. xxx

Answer 10

Oh sweetie!!! There's still adoption. I know what u mean- and ur rite having a baby from ur stomach is a beautiful thing and I know how much u wnat that, but it doesn't work like that. That's why beautiful people like urself have an option to adopt a kid, to love, take care and smother him/her with kisses!!! If u were to have a kid, i belive u'd be the best mother in the whole world. Can u adopt me lol??!!!