Parents usually have much more life experience than their children, they probably know much better how to judge someone else. There are so many divorces these days because immature and young people get married without really knowing what it means. Parents will be able to judge how well you match because they know you very well and have saw over twice what you saw in your life.
When people are young, they think parents should not force them to do things they don't like and when they get older they realize they were young. Why wouldn't parents be correct on that kind of decisions? They know what is love and if they really think you should marry someone it's probably because they know how love works and they made a wise choice.
2007-06-14 13:40:49 · 24 answers · asked by randomdude 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uh, as a legal adult my parents have no right to tell me who to marry. However, as a considerate person I would listen to them voice their concerns about the person I might consider marrying. That doesn't mean I'd listen, but their voices would be heard.
2007-06-14 13:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is how i see it. I think that a parents input on who you are dating should be considered, but not to the point that they are making that big of a decision for you. For instance, I was dating a guy that I was absolutely in love with but he was wrong for me in every which way possible. And my mom just pointed out things that I already knew but denied. But because she talked to me about it, I thought about what she had said and realized that I wasn't really happy with him. But she never told me that I shouldn't marry him, she just said it wouldn't be a good idea. The thing is, if she had said that I wasn't going to marry him, then I probably would have rebelled and I would be very unhappy right now. I also see it as, only you really know what makes you happy, and you should be able to find that on your own.
2007-06-14 20:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people wait until at least their mid-twenties these days to get married. While parental feedback might be worthwhile, the idea of having parents choose your spouse at that age is simply immature. And I doubt very highly that their choice (probably based more on the person's family than the person him or herself) would be any better.
2007-06-14 20:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the parents. Some parents are total idiots and have fixed their kids up with some big time losers. Yet for the most part most parents have warned the majority of divorced couples they were making a mistake before they married.
2007-06-14 20:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...if you're young. He/She might not be the most beautiful, but your parents will know what is going to make a good wife/husband.
When you get older (hopefully) a person makes more wise decisions about the person they plan on spending the rest of their life with. When you're young, like they say you're just young, dumb, and full of ***.
2007-06-14 20:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not better for parents to do this for anyone but their advice in these matters should be considered in making such choices. However, the ultimate choice should be yours alone and for this reason...you will have to live with your decision and the person you choose to marry, not your parents. Know this...you are not out to please your parents but you are out to please yourself. I know all about this since I was forced by my parents to give up on marrying a girl many years ago and ever since then I have regretted listening to them because I know it was the wrong thing to do.
2007-06-14 20:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by lphibbs01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents should not decide who there children will get married to. The parent's child needs to be happy and be told who to marry is not a good choice if the parents do not like there child's spouse then they just have to deal with it .
ya know what i mean!
2007-06-14 20:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in freedom of choice, thus I am against arranged marriages or having the parents choose a spouse..
There is more to a relaionship than just your parents idea of compatability.
Alot of the time parents are not really aware of the true feelings and beliefs of their children....
2007-06-14 20:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, no. Look who MY parents married!
Why would I trust Their judgement??
Simple fact of life. People Have to Make their Own Decisions. You cannot protect young adults from themselves. You can't talk them out of mistakes. People only become wise by living through their mistakes and learning from them. The longer you insulate your children from their mistakes, the longer they will remain children.
2007-06-14 20:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think most parents know much about marriage either. most of them are on their second or third marriage. children need to be able to make their own mistakes. besides the more parents push for their child to marry a certain person, the less their child will want to marry them.
2007-06-14 20:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋