what can i do?

Question

I'm 15
is their any self help books to help me be a better person.i'm judging of everyone and i want to be a kind person, I know its a bad thing that i judge and i'd like to change it.I want to care about important things no unimprotant things
also i'd like to ask How to speak to people
I find it hard to speak up since my confidence is rather low.
do i say anything if a popular girl is rude to me, do i say something nasty or say something "Piss off,*****" if i say that she might start on me



what could i do?
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Answer 1

Wise not to engage with people who are unpleasant. You do not need that in your life. Be a perfect young lady and rise above it. A silent smile can devastate someone who is mean.

Answer 2

You don't need a book - sounds to me like you are already on the right track. You've already admitted to yourself that you aren't the best at communicating and acknowledged that you want to be a better person. The rest is easy - just make an effort. There will always be people that are going to get under your skin, you just have to learn to deal. I am not sure if you are religious but in the event you do have faith - pray about it.

Answer 3

everyone judges everyone else, just don't judge them aloud,
if you care about something, it's important to you by default.
Be nice to people, helpful and friendly, it doesn't matter if you don't speak up - everyone loves a listener. If a popular girl is rude to you - say "ouch that hurt" - to let her and everyone around know she's not nice, but don't be nasty back - move away to join other people if you can, if one set of friends aren't worth keeping - there are usually other loners or groups you can join up with.

Answer 4

if some stuck up popular girl was rude to me when I was in school, I just air kissed at her smiled and said, I love you too honey. and then I just walked away

Answer 5

There are never the right words, always smile and a little nod, seems to upset them more