well, me and my boyfriend have been trying to have sex for about a month now. But, as sad as it is, it just hurts too much. I really want to do this, and i can tell this is frustrating for him, and it is for me aswell. I just dont know what to do.
I'm positive it's not because i'm not ready, because i know that i mentally am. Whats wrong with me, I need to fix this fast. .
2007-06-14 12:39:31 · 9 answers · asked by Little Miss Vixen. 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You may have a bacterial infection. When my husband and I first got married, sex was excruciating. (We had already been having sex for awhile - this was very odd.) It didn't matter how gentle or patient he was or how much lube. I went to the OBGYN and they had to use an instrument for children to do the exam because I was in so much pain. It turned out I had an infection. It wasn't an STD or anything, just a basic vaginal infection. I would pay a visit to your doc. Also, I am not sure of your age (or his) but if you are having sex, you need to be emotionally and mentally read. Sex is "giving" to one another - he needs to respect you and try his best to understand the discomfort you may be feeling. He shouldn't be frustrated. Especially after only a month.
2007-06-14 12:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just relaxing. Take your time and just have a while of foreplay so that when you're ready to really begin, you're really ready. The problem could be he's too... big. Or it's your first time. Either way, don't be embarrassed to get some lubrication, such as KY brand or there are others.
Just take your time and relax, try not to get in too big of a hurry and you'll both enjoy it more. But again, LOTS of foreplay to get you really going and maybe LOTS of lubrication. Be slow about it the first time and you'll adjust.
2007-06-14 19:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad part is there isn't much you can do to make it not hurt, but the first few times are the worst, after that it gets a lot better.
Best of wishes!
2007-06-14 19:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could actually be suffering from a condition which makes vaginal penetration difficult. This is known as Vaginismus. Try going to the following site for more info. Don't worry, this is an educational site, not a porn site vaginismus.com
2007-06-14 22:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by ✿Donna❀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mentally you might be, but physically? try using more time for foreplay, if that doesn't work use some lube, or maybe you're just too young
2007-06-14 20:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts if you're dry. Try a lubricating cream.
2007-06-14 19:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie. All. Over. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Lubrication
2. Foreplay
3. When something hurts, don't do it.
2007-06-14 19:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bobby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will not condone sin and what you and your boyfriend are attempting to do is sin plain and simple. You are giving in to your flesh which is the root of all sins which people bring upon themselves. If you had any morals you wouldn't think of having sex outside of marriage. Think about this before you
do it, look at all the young girls that get pregnant and regret
what they chose to do. Do Not Do It!!!
2007-06-14 19:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by setfree 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
KY Jelly works wonders. You should try lubrication.
2007-06-14 19:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by butterflyangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋