First of all I'm 27 yrs old, will be 28 in November. I come from an extremely conservative/old-fashioned family. I have 3 older sisters & all of them didn't move out until they got married. The oldest was 33 yrs old when she moved out & got married (I know). That is the family rule- period. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years & will be engaged soon. I am planning on moving out within 2 weeks but have not spoken to my family. This is going to completely break my mom's heart. I am getting married in one year. Does anyone think I should wait it out or just move out?
2007-06-14 12:06:36 · 11 answers · asked by Erica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rules are made to be broken, you're engaged so you're only bending them. Your family will get over it. Don't ask them, just do it and explain that you're a grown woman, you will be fine. Besides you're 27 years old!! not 17!
2007-06-14 12:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to move out... your parents are not running a convent. I can tell you that I lived with my wife in a one bedroom apartment for 8 months before we got married... and let me tell you the no sex thing was tough- sure, we pushed the boundaries a bit but we remained true. I learned so much from those months... just learning about compromise and really sharing your life with someone... that was 8 years ago and we are very happily married. You just need to live your life.... OK? Good Luck.
2007-06-14 17:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay put. Not only will your parents remain helpful, but you will not be tempted to forego your studies as living with someone can be stressful on YOU and take away from aspirations. You said it yourself, "Only one year." The older you get, the quicker time flies. First your education, then career, then 'settle-down'. Any other order is 'against-the-grain', foolhardy and chances you have now may not repeat themselves. I will never understand why young people wanna get 'old' FAST. ;-)
2016-05-20 22:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by madie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide which decision will make you feel the worse 10 years from now and go with that one. You do have a right to a life, so it's really about you, not your mother. This is emotional blackmail... happens all the time between mother's and daughters.
2007-06-14 12:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with marching to the beat of a different drummer. some of the worlds greatest minds are those of non comformists. i understand your not wanting to hurt your mom but, what about you? when do you get to make your own decisions? don't you want to be independent for a while? do you really want to go right from mom and dad to husband?you're 27 yrs old. do what YOU want.
2007-06-14 12:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a grown woman for crying out loud. Get some backbone and live life on YOUR terms, not anyone else's.
I know it may break her heart but she needs to realize you are no longer a child. You are capable of fending for yourself and making your own decisions. If she cannot handle that then that is her own fear and insecurity to deal with, not yours.
Do what feels right for YOU, not her.
2007-06-14 12:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait it out. I know it'll suck, but if this is the way your family has operated in the past....you have to respect that. Besides, it'll help save money for the wedding and the first years of marriage; if you aren't spending tons on moving expenses. Chances are your folks might back out of paying for your wedding...and that'd kinda suck.
2007-06-14 12:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Tim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you and fiance have to move out of state or hes leaving the country stay at home move the wedding date up or invited your parents to a special justice of the peace wedding then do the big wedding but make it sound like you and your fiance want to share this with just them
2007-06-14 12:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi There
I would say that you need to move out of the house but not in with you Fiance. you first need to be independent before you get married I would say. I did this and now that I am getting a divorce I can stay on my own again
2007-06-14 12:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its family rule are you are going to break your mom's heart...you need to wait. You will have the rest of your life with this man, your family may not forgive you, at least for a while. And trust me, its wonderful to have a supportive family during all of that wedding planning.
2007-06-14 12:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋