2007-06-14 11:18:26 · 37 answers · asked by ? 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Just let it go...
2007-06-14 11:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
its extremely difficult, I can tell you that from experience. We like to feel "right" as human beings, its our nature. Forgiveness is something that we enjoy giving as a way to make ourselves feel good about making someone else WRONG. If there is no apology, there is no resolve between the two people. If youre a very "big" person in the sense of your mental state you may be able to forgive and forget, but given that youre asking this question I think you still "WANT" an apology from this person, and likely deserve it if thats how you feel. Good luck, don't hold a grudge it is far better to bite the bullet and talk to this person soon before you get resentful
2007-06-14 11:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by SomeRandomGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all know it`s extremely not easy, I can tell you that from experience. We like to feel "right" as human beings, its our natural. Forgiveness is something that we enjoy giving as a way to make ourselves feel good about making someone else WRONG. If there is no apology, there is no resolve between the two persons. If you are a very "big" person in the sense of your mental state you may be able to forgive and forget, but given that youre asking this question I think you still "WANT" an apology from this person, and likely deserve it if thats how you feel. Good luck, don't hold a grudge it is far better to bite the bullet and talk to this person soon before you get resentful
2007-06-14 11:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by macdonald 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think forgiveness is more for your benefit, not theirs. Forgiving someone for their benefit just makes them feel not guilty anymore. True forgiveness comes when you can let go of what happened and no longer let it torment you. A person doesn't have to apologize for you to forgive them. I was molested at a young age by an uncle who I then never saw again. He passed away a couple of years ago. I never got the chance to confront him and he, of course, never apologized. Yet I have been able to forgive him. Not because he died and I felt like I had to, but because I've come to a place where what he did to me doesn't have any effect over me anymore. I don't hold on to it. Yes I have the memories, but they don't carry the pain that they used to. I have accepted and moved on and made peace with the past. It takes a lot of work and introspection to come to this place, but it is worth it.
2007-06-14 11:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by kaliluna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is something that is very difficult to do. I have been down this road a couple times and I have gotten to the point where I have forgiven them, however I will never ever forget what was done. It takes time depending on the situation, you may never be able to forgive the person. If you want a release from the situation you will have to.
Another way is to discuss what happened with a trusted friend....also have you approached the person that did the offending? If they are willing to discuss what happened that can be a huge help as well.
2007-06-14 11:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people give thumb downs on here when people are just being honest?
Personally, for me to forgive someone I need to know that they're sorry for what they did. If they don't apologize then that's telling me that they don't care and honestly, I can't really forgive in that situation. Also, closure is hard to come by if the wounds are still open.
2007-06-14 11:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is about being right with something and putting it to the back of your mind and moving on. You can't be right with something unless you understand it. If you can't talk to the person and ask questions to better understand, then you have to find closure some other way. If they are no longer in your life, perhaps you can write them a letter and express your feelings and then imagine their answers to be something you can forgive.
2007-06-14 11:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Topless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just give it time. Almost everything will pass. I've been lucky, no one has ever done something so bad that I can't forgive them. Or maybe I'm just a push over, like my husband says.
2007-06-22 05:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the hardest things to do. If you forgive them and be cautious,
with them, it doesn't matter if they apologize or not. You are the bigger
and better person.
2007-06-22 10:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the bigger person and let it go because later down the road they will that they were big an a**. Dont let some ones mistake linger in your head move on and be happy
2007-06-14 11:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when u forgive someone, u are letting go of the anger, and the sadness, u are doing a favor to urself before the others.
2007-06-14 11:20:36 · answer #11 · answered by naj.ss86 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋