im just 20 years old but i act like a parent between my friends , and i keeep giving advises and sometimes its bothering and even my friends dont like it, how can i do the right things and stop acting like a parent or an old lady??
2007-06-14 11:03:05 · 10 answers · asked by bramante 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a friend just like that. Although its helpful sometimes, other times it can be a real drag. What you have to do is just let go. Don't care so much. I know that seems harsh and hard to do, but you need to feel as if your friends can handle it themselves. I don't know you, so I don't want to make any personal judgements or anything, but my friend who acts like my mother is wound very tight. If that's you, then let go alittle. Add your advice only when asked, and if you disapprove of something they are doing don't lecture them, just tell them you think its wrong, and forget about it. You care about your friends and family so much, that you want to protect them. That's a really honourable quality, and don't try to dissolve it completely. Just stop caring alittle bit. You may also find, that by changing yourself your friends might miss the old you. Even if they complain now, you don't know what you have till its gone. I would really suggest living with it, everyone is irritating in some way. Maybe you are too parental, while others are too childlish. The world is a balance, and you just balance people like me who can't control themselves. I'm sure your a great friend :).
2007-06-14 11:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving advice or whatever you are doing that is making you like a parent. You're 20 so acting like a parent means you are mature and can probably take care of children and yourself. Have some fun and be carefree. Friends need someone to guide them to the right path so maybe your advice giving isn't so bad, just don't give any unless they need some.
2007-06-14 18:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by m○○♥m○○ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well acting like a parent to your friends is ok. just means you care about them. just know that you can suggest but you can't make them take your advise.
also if they ask you for advise then do give them your opinion.
K
2007-06-14 18:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by BettyBoopGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have a parent side to ourselves, it is what keeps us from doing crazy things.
Just encourage your parent self to act as you would like your parents to act toward you as you grow and can have more responsibility.
2007-06-14 18:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hang out with them and have fun and if your saying something that makes you sound like a parent just stop what your saying and forget about it.
2007-06-14 18:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by That's What She Said. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um this is a tough one just stop telling them what do unless it is some really stupid like breaking the law.
2007-06-14 18:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by anan potter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit your tongue every time you start to do this. It will cause you stop eventually or bite off you tongue.
2007-06-14 18:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just said it ...stop giving advices, and try to have fun with them , not for them!
2007-06-14 18:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by ThePipeMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think before you say something, or try thinking from thier point of view
2007-06-14 18:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by vanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the dic*k out your butt and live life and have fun.
2007-06-14 18:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by Star Eater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋