How to tell parents I'm Bi?

Question

So, I'm Bi and I really want to tell my parents, but I don't know how. Help?

Answer 1

Next time you leave the house and they say "bye", just say "yep!"

Answer 2

I've been wanting to do this too for a couple days but my parents are going through some rough times right now and are expecting to get a divorce. If I told them I was gay Im afraid they'd snap or something. I think Im going to tell my mom after they get the divorce and its less stressful.

I dont expect to tell my dad cuz he says gay people go to hell and if I told him that we'd probably end up in a fist fight over stupid ****. Id have to say learn their views on the whole gay/bi thing. I think my mom is ok with it thats why Im thinking about telling her.

Good luck and I hope it works out well.

Answer 3

There are numerous excellent books and web sites that give great advice on how to tell your parents this news. I'd recommend "Loving Someone Gay" by Clark (I think).
Also, some great finds if you type into Yahoo "bisexual adolescents". I don't know how old you are but there was a great website with just the info you need. www.advocatesforyouth.org
Once you tell them though, give them some time to "digest" this news. Go slow. And good luck :)

Answer 4

i am a parent and i have two kids they are not Bi and i am not sure how i would feel. but as a parent i would want to know. i would be mad and i would yell and i be afraid of what that all means. you will have to give your parents time to cool down and think about it. you have had time to get use to it talk it out with others they have not. you are going to dump it on them and they may get mad. there is not easy way to come out and say it. but i have booklets they could read and i would have a phone no. of groups that they could go and talk it out with and ask questions. give your parents time and love and you will get it back

Answer 5

I am of two minds on this one. First, once I left home, I figured it wasn't anyone's business but mine who I chose to sleep with, including my parents.
Second, having an open and accepting relationship with your parents is important at any age.
But, as an adult, and with a gay son of my own, I have to say that I see no reason to burden your parents with your sexual preferences, if you suspect they would have objections.
I never made a secret of how I felt about sexual preferences when raising my sons, so when one of them realized he was gay, he told me and I congratulated him on figuring it out. Seems to me that if your folks have never discussed the topic with you, it may be they are very uncomfortable with such a topic and may not appreciate you telling them. Just my humble opinion for what it may be worth.

Answer 6

How about the same way you just told us?

"Hi Mom, Pop, I'm bi. I really wanted you to know."

Answer 7

Why discuss your sexuality with your parents? If you meet someone who will be a long term serious partner you would want to mention it before they meet them. Otherwise, I don't see the need to talk about it, now. This hypothetical relationship could be with someone of the opposite sex. You would just freak them out for no reason. I don't discuss my sex life with my parents, and thank God , they don't give me any juicy details!

Answer 8

Hello Ashes,

Speaking for myself, if I was asked this question from any parent, I would say firstly.

* What is your reason for asking this question?

Otherwise, I would see no need to even consider volunteering this information to any parent.

But if I was suspected by a parent or both parents, for having sexual desires or sexual relations with both genders.

Then I would admit that it is true!

Peace,
BringBaka

Answer 9

If you're unsure about your parents views on the subject:
I personally broached the subject by having a discussion on gay rights.
"I have this friend who..." is the classic one....and is actually surprisingly subtle.
If you're pretty much sure your parents won't spontaneously combust, just tell them you have something important to tell them, and go for it.

Answer 10

i wouldnt u must not have that "friend" relationship with them other wise it would be easy how do u think they will take it id prepare 4 the worse especially if their not with the "alternitive" life styles of today will u stop if they dont approve why open a can of snakes you cant close good luck with what ever u decide

Answer 11

They are you're parents, they'll understand. It's no big deal its just your sexual preference that is no ones bussiness, but your parents should know. Just sit down with your mom,dad, or both parents and just tell them, look this is me, I hope you still love me for who I am...they will understand.