Have you ever just ditched all of your friends because you realized they were losers?

Question

im really debating doing it. Its the same boring bs everyday and each day I realize that if I hadn't known these people since highschool I wouldn't hang out with them.

I have tried to improve things but they aren't going to change who they are and I can't expect them too.

I hang out with them because I want to have fun, I used to , but now I don't. I don't want to keep hanging out with them and hoping things will change when they wont..........................ANY ADVICE? if you did ditch them how did it work out?

Im in my late 20's..........Highschool is over

Answer 1

I ditched most of my friends because they were too demanding of my time and I am the only one in the group who does not have children. Attending kiddy parties out of obligation at Chuckie Cheese became tiresome.

I'm also very selfish when it comes to my solitude. I became less diligent about returning their calls and eventually they stopped calling.

Answer 2

I think it was the opposite for me in high school. However, instead of "ditching" them, which is nothing but rude no matter how you try and explain it away, why not tell them outright about the things they do that make you tired of being around them.
If they don't change, then it is also a factor that you could be the one who they could see as being a "loser." Why would you want to change anyone just to benefit your own social position? What gives you the right to think of them as losers when compared to everyone else around you?

Ditching those you call friends now will only serve to alienate you among other people around you at the same time.

Answer 3

I have some friends that are definetly not the coolest people around, sometimes I hate being with them and I see that they drag me down, but other times I don't mind having them around, just not all the time. My advice to you is maybe don't cut the connection completely because that almost always leads to hurt feelings, maybe only hang out once every so often and maybe not even for too long.

Answer 4

I ditched my past friends and haven't to this day regretted it. Its now been almost 11 years, no wishes to ever go back in time. I was the only one of the group that didn't do drugs, only alcohol. I realized one day that they were bogging me down. We all shared expenses on rent and guess who footed the most bills and all the food?? of course, I did. After walking away I at first was a loner due to the fact that I didn't have any friends to run with. Got married and best thing in my life happened. I was happy and not having to support everyone else. At first you will want to go back, but stick to it and you will end up much happier and not have any regrets. I talk to my old friends occassionally now but never want to run with them again, they still can't pass drug tests, as adults.

Answer 5

I've just gotten rid of mine. Its weird for a while because you don't have as many people to call up and hang out with. But Ive found 1 amazing friend in the process. Just hang in there. If you don't think you want to be friends with someone then dont. It doesn't mean you have to write them off completely or be a jerk about it. Just slowly walk away.

It will be better int he long run just hang in there :)

Answer 6

Well, I wouldn't want to change my friends or ditch them because if they were your friends since high school. Then maybe you should spice something up by asking them to go with you to a special event (a barbecue, watch a movie etc.)If they say yes see the bright side of things in your friends. If uv bin BF's since high school then you must be great pals no reason to ditch them now. Check ya later.

Answer 7

I wouldn't call it "ditching." People grow apart as they grow older. It happens. I've only retained one friend from high school. Even several friends of mine from college have lost their luster as our interests have changed. They're probably not any less interesting as people, their interests merely no longer interest you.

I wouldn't simply ditch them cold turkey. Just let it slide away if you don't want them around anymore. Don't be mean or cold or evil -- you REALLY want to minimize the number of bridges you burn in life...you never know who you'll need down the road.

If I'm you, I try and make new friends who s hare your interests and just see what happens with your old friends. If you're bored with them they're likely becoming bored with you, you know? That's often a two-way street. Just let things take their course.

Answer 8

I have dumped friends before because I either learned they were losers, they did nothing to help themselves but sat around complaining about how depressed and unhappy they were or I just didn't like them anymore. It's hard to try to make friends with people and then learn that your priorities, morals and values are completely different. It's good to have friends who are different than you, but it's not good to have friends that are immature, that use you and drain you of your own happiness. Just start making new friends who you have more in common with. Spend more time getting to know yourself and new people. Slowly phase out the people who don't fit into your lifestyle anymore. They will get the hint eventually.

Answer 9

I did not get rid of all my friends, but I got rid of probably 2/3 of them. Basically what happened was I realized I didn't have time to deal with their BS, so I stopped hanging out with them. Then I had a lot of free time, and I got to meet a lot of new people. Most of those people sucked but some of them were cool, so I kept those and stopped hanging out with the ones who sucked.

Now all my friends are people I like, and it's great.

As for how I got rid of them, I just stopped calling them and if they called me, I would tell them I was busy, or couldn't hang out for one reason or another, and eventually they stopped calling.

Answer 10

i have actually had the same exact problem. i am in my 20s also. i have dumped 3 of the people that i had considered to be my best friends. i have know 2 of them since elementary school and the other 1 since junior high.

i came to the realization that we no longer had anything in common other than the fact that we go to college together.
i realized that 2 of them weren't as mature as i was--they both still lived at home with parents and still act as if we are in high school.

all i need is my partner. she's my best friend. and i have more in common with her than i have had with anyone else. so i may have lost 3 friends but i still have someone that means more to me than all 3 of them put together.