I have . because i wasnt happy and yes i would do it again.
2007-06-14 10:25:15 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did in my first marriage after 20 years of severe abuse. I was just trying to get my last bit of courage up to leave. I gained that through my affair partner who I am now married to. I would do it again knowing what I knew then. If I knew what I know now, my life would have taken an entirely different path, but that's a moot point.
2007-06-14 10:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame you did it and it's more a shame you'd do it again. If you're not happy with your partner then get a divorce. Let him/her go out and have the opportunity to find someone that won't cheat. Your spouse deserves to have the type of relationship he/she is looking for. You are a selfish person. Why would you want to bring something that could be life threatening home to your spouse? Especially if you have children. I have a good friend who now has cervical cancer because her husband couldn't keep it in his pants. Now she's divorcing, has a daughter that may not get the opportunity to grow up with a mother. SELFISH! SELFISH! SELFISH! And it will come back to you in so many ways so much harder.
2007-06-14 17:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by missnasa2001 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I have never cheated on my spouse. If there's a reason to cheat then you don't need to be in a relationship. That's the way I see it. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I obviously love & care about that person & wouldn't do anything that I know would hurt them & hurt the relationship.
2007-06-14 17:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! I take my marriage vows very seriously.If you're not happy,then you have the power to change your unhappiness.Cheating only adds fuel to an already unhappy situation which will come back to "bite" you in the end.
Marriage isn't about being happy all the time.There will be days when you aren't for one reason or another,but you have to accept that life isn't always filled with the old fairy tale endings."And they lived happily ever after".Bull! Takes hard work and yes,sometimes sadness to make a marriage work.But in the end,it's worth it when there is a deep love for one another in a relationship.Just my 2 cents worth..
2007-06-14 17:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I fell in love with the man (one of our best friends) years before the affair started. Would I do it again? No. I would have waited to get a divorce before I ever allowed myself to become involved with anyone. That is the current plan now, divorce, stay single until it is final and then maybe, maybe the other man and I could try to see what is left.
2007-06-14 17:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a state of mind, and having sex while cheating on your spouse has noghing to do with happiness. Lust and love are not the same thing.
It's apparent that you did not achieve happiness, for you would be willing to leave your current spouse for the one you cheated with. You can continue to fool yourself, but it's your idea of "not getting caught" that you get your rocks off.
2007-06-14 17:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Emerald 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have and i would do it again. its hard to just be with 1 women. thats like only watching 1 t.v. station. or having 1 thing for dinner. or only eating the same candy day after day. its like never getting new carpet. just imagine that ladies and tell me that you will never cheat. i want to hear from atleast 1 women who has been married for atleast 15 years that has never cheated or had there husband cheat on them. i bet its rare. anyways just my thoughts. how about eating the same flavor of icecream all the time. we need change we are americans and we are use to having things we want. why should a marriage be any different?
2007-06-14 17:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by hiletsparty69 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have been married 10 years, never cheated and it's never crossed my mind. My husband is my best friend. There have been times that I found myself lonely in our marriage because he was working so much. Did I cheat. Hell no!! I went to my husband and told him how I felt. "We" worked it out like every other problem in our marriage.
If you're selfish enough to disrespect your husband, vows and even yourself, get a divorce.
2007-06-14 17:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Flabbergasted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, never had, never will. I don't care what the situation is. I can say no and I have a few times. The world is filled with dogs who don't care that you're married and some people don't care that they're with someone.
2007-06-14 17:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. I think it's only polite to break off a relationship (in marriage or even dating) or try to work out those issues before venturing into another's arms.
Not to be rude, but I find "cheating" to be cowardly and avoidant.
2007-06-14 17:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by Hani 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋