Should i be offended?

Question

There is a group of men in my church that keep on "joking" around with me. It really hurts my feelings and I would tell them that I don't like it, they would apologize but then continue on with it. I know they think it is all in fun but my 9 year old son heard them say something about me and he told them to shut up and not to talk about me in that manner. He was put in time out for speaking to an adult in that manner. These are ushers in my church and i think that they are bone heads but it is over looked and now i have 9 year old who is very upset about all this. How should i handle this and should i be offended? Or let it go?

recently i was in the parking lot saying good night to my best friend and one of them said really loud "You forgot to hit her on your way out!" everyone heard and some laughed but i wasn't happy and neither was my son and friend. And they call themselves Christians. I was told to confront these men and tell them i don't like it but it didn't work. I was then later told that i shouldn't harbor ill feelings towards anyone as a chridtian i should forgive. The carnal animal in me wants to scratch their eyes out.

Answer 1

If you have already told them that you don't like it, go to the pastor / preacher. He needs to set them straight. Church should be like a home for you and your son. You should feel loved, comforted and happy when you are there. The rest of the world is filled with pain and insensitivity, you don't need to have that when you go to church. Just tell the pastor what you have told us and give him two or three names. He will let them know that they have taken it too far...and you can start enjoying the time with church family again.

Answer 2

Tell them off and join another church. What they are doing is very wrong and they should know much better. Yes, you definitely have every right to feel offended. Do not let it go because it is now affecting your son and that is not right. Your son should have never gotten punished. Go talk to whoever put your son in time out and give them a piece of your mind. Good luck and hope it all works out for you.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

read them a religious passage that will make them reflect on what they are doing and how it is not right. Tell your son in front of them that, that kind of behavior is not appropriate as stated in the passage and tell them they hurt your feelings and you would like for them to stop such jokes.

If that doesn't help, talk to someone of authority in the church and get some advise on what to do next.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I think you should have a meeting with your pastor or priest
and discuss this situation very seriously. He can talk to
them about it. They should be asked to leave the church
if they continue. I don't know what they've said, but there
are laws regarding not just sexual harassment, but harassment in general. There are now laws in schools
against bullying and it sounds as if these "men" er.....
toddlers.....are doing just that. Do not let this one slide.

Answer 6

I would talk to the pastor/priest of your church and have your son tell him/her what was said and maybe he can get them to quit, or maybe he might make them stop being ushers so they are not so close to the congregation.

Answer 7

I would either confront the head of the church or find another church to attend.

Answer 8

Sounds like you are justified. I find it ironic that often times the most religious people are the ones that regard women as inferior..

Answer 9

oh so they can talk about you in a disparaging manner but your son gets punished for sticking up for you.

go tell them what you think and tell them to grow up.

Answer 10

go to the pastor and complain. this is harrassment, plain and simple, and it is ILLEGAL. and to be honest, i'm not sure i'd go to a church that treats children like that. the adults were wrong, not your son. i'd rethink my membership.