my parents signed theır aproval for me to get married when i was 16?

Question

my mum just wanted me out of the house so that her kurdish boyfriend colud move ın.my dad had a braın hemorage nearly 12years ago now parents seperated after that happened ım 21 now my mum does not have any contact wıth me now my brothers 14 stıll lives wıth my mum he has some contact wıth me my dad has had 24 care a day for the past 5years now he ıs un able to make a conversatıon my mums boyfriend ıs alot younger than my mum she has not surported me ın any thıng or wanted to make much contact sınce marriage should ı make fırst move and call her?

Answer 1

You should forgive your mother, but that doesn't mean you should have anything to do with her.

Answer 2

Well.... Personally I think that she has not been a very good mother if she can't pick up the phone... But sometimes there are circumstances that the eye doesn't see... I think if you are even asking this, there is apart of you that want to be reunited with your mother. And since you have to ask, there is apart of you that has doubts... I say you should just go for it. It is the only way to know where she stands when it comes to you and how she will accept being your mother once again. A mother's work is never done, even if you did get married and move out. Hope that helps a little.

Answer 3

As hard as it is to hear. I'd forget her altogether. You may need counseling, to get over her abandonment of you, but you'll be better off. There's a big difference between child bearer, and a Mother. Your mum has not been a Mother to You, so for your own well being its best to walk away.

Though you may feel all alone, I'm sure if you look around there's someone you can find comfort in. It may be the ol' lady next door.

Best wishes

Answer 4

Yes you should contact your mom. I don't think most of the other respondents realize the context here. According to your last posting, you are in Turkey, married to an abusive man. As I see it, your first priority is to get home to England. As far as rebuilding your relationship, it doesn't look promising. But you need help.

Answer 5

I would for the simple fact that you only have one mom. You may be upset about the way she treated you and your father. She may just think that you disapprove of what she did. You need to work things out with your mom and have more to do with your brother. One day when you are older you'll wonder why you waited so long to make amends.

Answer 6

If you want to talk to her why wait for her to make the first move? She hasn't done it yet. Give it a shot and see what happens. At the very least maybe you can get your brother more into your life.

Answer 7

I think if in your heart you want to contact her than you should. A lot of time the child is actually the adult in the parent child relationship. If I were you I would call then.

Answer 8

Yes, if for any reason it doesnt work out. You know you tried. This should give you peace of mind. I wish you the best of luck in your reconciliation

Answer 9

I see no reason to contact her. Continue to live your life.

Also, you may want to invest in some punctuation. Your post is very difficult to read.

Answer 10

I think we have the same mother. I did make the first move and i was rejected again,

Answer 11

not 2 sure really... i mean u can always try my finace hadnt talked to his dad in 20 yrs and he wrote him n he called so ust give it a try... and if she still doesnt want to talk to u then her lose not urs at least u can say u tryied