she's only living with us for 1-2 months in foster care until the adoption papers go through with this other family. Me (15) and my 11 yo sister Randy are sharing a room with her. it's only been 5 days, but Jayden and i just kind of clicked from day 1. we enjoy alot of the same things and she's great to be around. but she's leaving us in a month or two, and i don't want us to be really close because that will make it much harder when she leaves. but i also don't want to ignore her, she's a great kid. what can i do?
2007-06-14 08:08:10 · 18 answers · asked by Me, Myself, and I 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just be close to her. When she leaves you guys can keep in touch. I bet it makes it much easier for her to be living there when she feels like she's liked and accepted. So i really do think its a good idea to keep talking to her and just enjoy yourself. It will make her stay at your house much more enjoyable. If she's moving out of state or something you guys can write letters and talk on the phone or email if you're both aloud to. Its always good to have another friend. If shes not moving that far away then you can see her from time to time. And not to be sad when she leaves remember shes going to go live with a new family who will love and take care of her.
2007-06-14 08:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sarah♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Protecting yourself from a painful goodbye, will also mean missing out on a chance to really to get to know and experience a great relationship with someone you already said is "really neat". Foster kids get plenty of rejection and have to say goodbye way too many times....people worth meeting don't come along everyday.....you and your sister are old enough to handle this....and fortunate enough to live in an email generation---so you may be able to keep in touch after all. Enjoy getting to know one another, have as much fun and make as many memories as you can..... you have been blessed with this opportunity, dont miss it. The truth is, none of us knows what tomorrow will bring.....when life throws you a big hug, hug back. And when its time to say good bye, exchange stuffed animals, write each other a letter, cry....but have a ton of great memories to carry you through.... who knows, your paths may cross again....or this may be your only chance for this little bit of joy.
2007-06-14 08:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and get close with her and stay in touch. Never miss an opportunity to get to know someone, especially since you enjoy each others company. You two were brought into each others life for some reason no matter what the circumstances are!
2007-06-14 08:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing to get close with someone that is going to leave. Sure you will be a little sad but you guys can always write or call each other and maybe even visit each other occassionally. Make her feel at home and don't ignore her, it will just make her feel unwanted. Try to spend time with her, get close to her!
2007-06-14 09:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Emily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it fairly is incredibly particularly undemanding in toddlers that age. My niece and nephew went by this point. My sister in regulation finally have been given bored stiff and could enable them to have "bare events" the place they'd run around the domicile bare for a short volume of time. They theory that replaced into merely the final and then could dress whilst asked to. This went on for type of 6 months and then they lost pastime. I labored in a daycare and had this take place besides and none of those toddlers replaced into abused.
2016-10-17 06:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by clam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs a friend. Dont worry about getting close. Just be sure to keep in touch when shes gone. You will have a life long friend!
2007-06-14 08:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by jesssm1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you have to stop being friends when she leaves? Your parents wouldn't stop caring for you just because they know you will be moving out eventually!
Plus, a foster kid is used to temporary situations, and a steady friend in her life would mean a lot.
2007-06-14 08:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fight it!!! How wonderful that you found someone you like! True friends are hard to come by. Keep in touch with her. Just because she is going to be living someplace else does not mean you can't have a relationship.
2007-06-14 08:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be close with her. if not for her, for you. just be nice, because you'll be the sister she wanted, even if only for a month. let her have a good life and at least know what a family is before moving on.
2007-06-14 08:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her adoptive parents are within the area, why not? You could also try to be penpal's. I know that may seem corny, but if you click with someone, there really is no loss.
2007-06-14 08:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Harley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋