She is my best friend that cant think for her self! She copies me at everything! I got a new bike she got a new bike! I got the pink razor she got the pink razor I got the sidekick3 she got the sidkick2 (used) I am so over it! I am on the edge of saying I dont want you to be my friend because your to much of a COPYCAT!
2007-06-14 06:51:20 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honey, I understand your frustration here, but stop and think about WHY your friend's doing this: She thinks you are worth copying. She thinks you're so cool that she wants anything you have.
Why don't you talk to her about this and let her know that it does bother you a bit? Tell her that the reason you like her is that she's unique, and copying you just takes that uniqueness away.
2007-06-14 06:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear all of that. I know from experience this situation can be annoying, but you have to understand that she's not trying to annoy you or copy you. She probably just admires you alot and even looks up to you. Does she have an older sister to idolize? Probably not, and so she needs you but that also doesn't mean you should allow her to steal your identity. Some things I've tried were having other friends where I can go and be myself or keep a diary with you secret thoughts and self. But don't give up on the friendship, it will really hurt her if you push her away, since she looks up to you so much.
2007-06-14 13:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like a lot of the answers where people are telling you to calm down. I would add that you both will have some time to grow up. And maybe you can help her by telling her that you like for who she is, not the things that she guys. And then talk about the copy cat stuff. Tell her you think she can make decisions on her own.
You both have a lot of growing to do, so I would not use a hammer to kill a flea. Take it easy.
2007-06-14 14:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds pretty intense. First of all I'm sure she knows what she is doing. But ask her why? tell her this is bothering you and if she can stop. I would think she admires you that much to want to be like you and do what you do etc. Then again it is annoying for you. Best thing to do is bring it up and talk to her. If she is your friend she will understand or at least try to understand how you feel. Good luck on the situation though.
2007-06-14 13:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try letting her make some desions about what you do together...tell her, "it's up to you, I'm not making the decision." If that doesnt help, it may be time to move on. You don't want someone copying everything you do....that is no fun. If you don't want to do this, you need to to tell her..say I want to be your friend but you need to not copy everything I do, It's becoming an isue with me." Put her in situations where she makes the choices and go with them....don't complain when she does.
2007-06-14 14:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by moonfairy_032175 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get window made of glass, he get window made of glass. I get clock radio, well,he can not afford clock radio... Great Success.
I can tell that your still learning the ways of freindship. As you grow older those you call your best friend will fall into a different classification. This just sounds like a friend.
You need to evaluate whether or not the benefits out weigh the negative characteristics. If you feel better off without her as a friend, then you know what you need to do.
However, it sounds like she looks up to you and wants to be like you...
2007-06-14 13:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by west 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are shallow. I dont think you deserve a friend as noble as her.
I think that your throwing away the friendship is a way to protect her heart. If she keeps following you, she might end up as shallow as you are, and if a little heartbreak keeps her from a lifetime of being pedantic - its a blessing.
Real truth: true friends are rare in life. You only get one or two that can last a lifetime. Most cant last 5 years after high school. In an 80 year lifespan, thats means the average friendship cant last 25% of your life. True friends should be valued, and admired.
They say that mimicry is the highest form of flattery. That girl loves you - to her you are all she wants to become.
You know what pushing her away like you are earns you in Justice or Karma? An eye for an eye - you are speaking in the language of truth, the language of actions, and you are crying out for the person who is everything you wish you could be in life to kick you down and reject you. The universe must comply with the demands your actions make of it.
2007-06-14 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Curly 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
She probably just notices that maybe you have a really good life and if she tries to act like you so she can have the same thing. Don't get mad at her she's just trying to fit in. Just talk to her, ask her why she bought the same stuff you did, it's really not worth losing a friend
2007-06-14 13:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by cris_c0ast 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she admires you and wants to be like you. Just sit her down and let her know that you are flattered but she needs to start doing her own thing. Maybe some time apart with other friends may help, too. Good luck!
2007-06-14 13:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by tanya t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, maybe she's not copying you. Maybe she just likes all the same things you like. But then if she does [i]everything[/i] like you do, why don't you just ask her what she wants before letting her know what you want. That way she'll have a chance to think for herself.
2007-06-14 14:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋