I don't know what to do!!!?

Question

My boyfriend and I had to break up because my mom didn't want us going out. But for a stupid reason.... she says I am only allowed to date people that are white. We broke up but remained friends, which was still really hard because we both still wanted to be together so badly. We still talk and text everday, and I keep getting in more and more trouble. I still live under my parents' roof, so they pay all of the bills and can make life miserable. He said he was willing to wait until we graduated (3 years) if that's what it took. But basically it came down to high school relationship or tearing apart my family. Either way someone is going to get hurt. I can't imagine life without him, but I had to make a choice. I am going to try and temporarily just cut off all contact with him until this blows over. Is this the right thing to do? What are my other options? Please help me!!

I am 14 and i don't want to disobey my parents or lie to them. How can I show them how much I want to be with him, and how awsome he is? My mom refuses to talk to me about this kind of stuff, she gets mad and sends my dad. What do I do?

Answer 1

Parents can sometimes be difficult. I know. As a teenager, I believed that I had all of the right answers. Now, as a parent, I know I don't have these answers. I can tell you this though, I think what you have decided to do is very mature. You've done something you didn't want to do for your parents sake. It does seem that they have made a desicion based on what people might think about them...not so much what people think about you. Of course, all parents see that there children are the reflection of themselves, and what you do in life is a result of their parenting. This could be both a good and bad thing. But, I don't think you should cut all ties with your boyfriend (ex-boyfriend). Keep talking to each other. It may and it may not work out. I can't believe I am saying this, but parents don't always know whats best for their children...sometimes, they only do what they think is best for themselves.

Answer 2

So are you going to moment-bet the whole lot each time you run into or suppose approximately an ex? Look, your ex is an ex for a purpose. You are married. So both receive that existence is extraordinary now and you're married or smash your marriage. If you do not love your spouse, then depart her so she will uncover a person who's for truly approximately her and does not string her on my own at the same time he secretly pines for anyone else. It's unfair.

Answer 3

Opposites may attract, but it's sameness that holds a couple together. It might be a good time to ask the question, at your age, what is the most important thing to you, a high school date or high school guy, or your family. Which is going to be there for you for the next ten or twenty or thirty years? Which can you afford to lose more easily? I know it hurts and isn't even fair, but it's time to get that stiff upper lip and just do what is best for you, and that's to keep your stability with where it is going to be for years to come.

Answer 4

You should discuss why they think you should only date white people... That is a very closed minded opinion and those types of people, even if they are your parents, should not have a say in what your life. If you truly love this guy, screw your parents! Maybe date him secretly and if you go out with him and they find out just say you were going out as friends and there are numerous excuses to use and if your parents don't believe you... well say the standard "You don't trust me? Why? *teenage rage*" and they should back off a bit... maybe. Anyway it is your love life, not your mother's so she should stick her nose into her own business.

Answer 5

as long as you are living with your parents and they're taking care of the bills and such you need to obey them. Maybe if you sit them down with your Special Friend and talk to them about your feelings and concerns and what not. Help them understand what you're going through right now, and help them to see things the way you do. Have your Friend share as well and maybe invite his folks as well. Um, if they're still not to peachy about it I would suggest listening to them so they don't make things even worse.

Answer 6

I am assuming that you are white. Girl, this isn't just bout your mom. If you really love this guy, he must be very special, and your mom is rascist. You need to sit her down and talk to her. Tell her you really love this guy and that breaking up doesn't stop you from loving him. Don't break off with him. I know it is very important to listen to your mom, but in this case she is wrong. Racism is very serious and you need to talk to her about it. Good Luck!

Answer 7

unfortunately- you are in a bad position. its a shame your mom is so narrow-minded, but you don't have much choice. if you two are really friends, maybe your mom would agree to have him over to your house for dinner or whatever. sometimes prejudice comes from a fear of the unknown. good luck!!

Answer 8

i understand u want to create a happy household but for u to not date someone based on their color is considered racist on ur moms behalf. i think if u dont talk to your mom about her racist issues u will grow to resent her for the rest of your life. talk to your mom so u can get over this hurdle, his skin color should not reflect his character or that hes a good person. good luck!

Answer 9

Talk to your mother, she's being unreasonable.

Answer 10

well, if you truly love him forget wut yo mama says! go get a job and get an apartment, so then you wont be undr yo parents roof.