I don't know what to do or to handle this situation.
I'm 23 weeks pregnant, I have a boyfriend and we have been engaged for about 5 months. I want to be with him, but I also want to experiment with other women (Bi Curious). Well, he would totally disapprove of the whole situation, and if he ever found out about me being with anybody, even a woman, he would leave me. I just don't know how to handle this situation. I'd like to experiment with women after I've had my baby and all, but I don't want my boyfriend to break up with me because of it.
2007-06-14 06:30:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
By the way, I've been Bi Curious for years, just never done anything about it. Has a little bit with being scared to try.
2007-06-14 06:39:20 · update #1
You should be faithful to the person you are with. No matter if you are bisexual or not. That's what it comes down to.
2007-06-14 06:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Corey D. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have such deep questions about the lifestyle you wish or need to follow, then it certainly would have been best to sort those things out within yourself BEFORE you became pregnant and engaged. That said, everyone has fantasies. Sometimes they reflect a true desire and sometimes they are just a fantasy. Though it may not be often discussed, many women have the fantasy of being with another woman. And many men have the fantasy of being with two women at the same time. That the fantasy is there doesn't mean that it has to be acted upon. Don't you and your fiance ever discuss your sexual fantasies? If not, you should. Just as fantasy. It can be very hot. Ask him to share one fantasy with you. Then you share this one with him. And just see how he responds. This "problem" may not be nearly as insurmountable as you now think. Good luck.
2007-06-14 06:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in s situation just like yours and eventually you will start feelign sexually frustrated because you cannot be yourself sexually with that person, have you suggested a threesome with him??? Or is he just an old fashioned guy and wouldn't be down for that either, however I have now met someone who ismore on my level sexually and it makes everythign so much better I am still bicurious but now I don't feel so reserved and held back to where if the situation approaches I know that he knows how I feel and won't look down on me what so ever and actually he would enjoy seeing it. If you would like to chat further send me a message and I will send you me email address.
2007-06-14 06:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and that i had some serioulst open coversations those days with regards to this style of element and threesome etc, no longer as a results of fact the two persons referred to the subject remember of desirous to do it, yet checking how one yet another felt on the subject. My hubby like "something unusual" to be performed to him which I in simple terms won't be able to do, so I instructed him i may be happy with inviting yet another female in and letting her do the needed and then i'm going to end him off. Hubby did no longer conform to this and stated if i develop into no longer the single doing it then there may be no component to having it performed via somebody else. i assume fantasies are in simple terms that they arrive into our brains and stay there they do no longer seem to be meant to materialize ito a certainty and in the event that they do i think of this is via the fact to plenty time has been spent on it.
2016-10-09 05:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up what you have! You have a family that is about ready to start. You don't want to give that up because you are lusting for a woman. If you are bi-curious, then you should of experimented before you got pregnant and got into a committed relationship. If your boyfriend don't want you to experiment outside of the relationship, respect his wishes. It wouldn't hurt to ask him though. Some guys like the idea of watching two girls go at it! It wouldn't hurt to ask him. If he don't want you to do it, then don't!
2007-06-14 06:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by staroftheuniverses21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheating is cheating whether with a man or a woman. You are just going to have to exhibit self-control. What do you do when you see a man you are attracted to? Just do that. Anyways....pregnancy makes you hormones go wild. This may not seem like such an urgent problem once the baby is born.
2007-06-14 06:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be a party pooper....but...it sounds to me like you already made a life choice in getting engaged and having a baby...am i wrong here or does it sound like you want your cake, his cake and be able to eat it all...no pun intended of course!
2007-06-14 06:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lil_bit_witty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you know what the Bible says about this.
In brief it says, "Don't"
The fact that you've been tempted to sin but have not sinned yet is good.
I would suggest you ask the Lord to help you stay as far away from any sexual relationships with anyone other than the father of your baby or you will lose him and justifiably so.
Pastor Art
PS: Oh yes, I hope you plan on marrying him before your child is born.
2007-06-14 06:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
wow that's a mouthful, you need to tell your fiance about this. he has the right to know before you get married, if he loves you then you too maybe able to come up with solution that benefits both of you, good luck
2007-06-14 06:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by TRACER ™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't condone cheating in any realm...
2007-06-14 06:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its cheating.
if your thinking about being with other people, maybe you shouldnt get married?
2007-06-14 06:34:28 · answer #11 · answered by ktlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋