Sued by ex-boyfriend?

Question

I had a very wealthy boyfriend who lived in a different state. I am in Florida. He set up a bank account with both our names on it and gave me a book of blank, signed checks in case I needed money. He wired 82k into my account, then 42k, then 8k, then 5k. I never used the bank account but I did use a bunch of checks. He told me he loved me and wanted to take care of me. I had a good job when we met but I lost it due to his constant phone calls to my place of employment because he was insecure. He decided to get into real estate and told me he would give me 55k each year (to cover the salary I lost) if I would help him find the houses and get them fixed up for sale. (the 82k wire was to 1 1/2 year of money I lost from my job) He then wanted me to put one of the houses in my name. He wired me the 42k to buy the house I chose. The realtor told me to get a GIFT letter that stated that all the money he has given to me prior to and including the 42k was a gift with no intention of repayment.

He signed the gift letter. After that he wired to me around an additional 25k for bills, expenses, etc. He never, ever said it was a loan or that he expected repayment. Well, it has been 2 years since we broke up. I just got a letter from him saying he wants all the money back (147k) or he will seek legal action. He also said we could work something out so I could make payments. I don't have any money! I have a new job making 35k and have since gotten engaged and had a baby. I am totally freaking out. My fiance knows nothing about this guy and I don't know what to do. Can he win, what do I do? Thanks.

No, I never signed anything except for the papers he had me sign to put me on his bank account. He actually wired the money he sent to me from that joint account into my personal account in Florida that was only in my name. I never wrote a check or did a wire from the joint account he set up.

When I told the realtor where I was getting all this money she told me it would be in my best interest to get the gift letter just in case anything happened in the future.

Answer 1

Where to begin, where to begin. You added a lot of personal details (failure to get married, sleeping around out of wedlock, having an illegitimate child) that beg comment, but only asked about the possible lawsuit. In the future, please post only the relevant facts as they relate to your question so that you won't get beat up over things that are, quite frankly, none of our business and of no concern or interest.

That said, although I wouldn't welcome the lawsuit, I wouldn't fear it, either. From what you describe, I wouldn't even bother to hire an attorney. I do find it interesting and unusual that the realtor should have advised you to secure a "gift letter". Realtors, as a rule, don't care nor become involved in determining where the money [for a house] comes from. Just an observation, that's all.

Answer 2

Doubt very much that he could win - so call him on it and let him go ahead by just ignoring him. If he goes forward to try it and a lawyer actually takes his case, he is just spending more for nothing if everything you said here is true. There is nothing he can recoup as it was all a gift to you and that was two years ago. If he does go forward, you maybe better had come clean with this new guy and if there is anything to this relationship it will not make a difference. If it makes a difference from something over two years ago, then you should kick him to the curb anyway. He did not even know you then.

Answer 3

So, what is your question? This just ends and I have no clue what your beef is.

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I just saw you added to your post.

If he has the kind of money you are implying, I imagine he has good lawyers that could make your life a living hell. I would say you need to get good legal advice from a Florida attorney.

But... when ever it is a matter of money that are gifts, the courts will be on your side. If someone gives you something, with out a contract that says you must repay or provide a service in return, than it is yours to keep.

Answer 4

I don't think you have to worry to much about his demand
to pay him all that money he put in your joint account. In
fact, no evidence what so ever that the money he put in
the account was to be considered a loan on your part because ypu did not sign any promissory note. I think he
is just doing this to get back at you. For your peace of mind
I advice you to see a lawyer for further advise.



you did not sign any papers

Answer 5

the gift letter that the ex signed, voids any claim that he may have to repayment. but you may need to consult a lawyer just in case. paying them for 30 minutes of time vs paying $147k sounds like a no brainer.

Answer 6

did u ask for the money. since he signed the letter saying that it was a gift, im not sure there is much he can do. you should visit a lawyer and find out exactly what you can do.

Answer 7

then why exactly is he suing you ? dont understand you have not made that part clear why he is suing you I mean . I dont understand why he is suing you either . But I would advise you to talk to a real estate lawyer . good luck .tell him you have spoken with an attorney and that you have that gift letter and will use if presured or taken to court and go blow his horn somewhere else . he is an idiot and the judge will see that if he trys to take this matter to court . good luck .

Answer 8

You tell him no. These were not loans, you asked me to do this as a joint business venture. If he persists, you call a lawyer. The first consultations with Lawyers are usually free.

Answer 9

I don't think he has a legal leg to stand on as long as you didn't sign anything. He is just trying to scare you. I would toss his letters in the garbage.