To teen girls: How would you feel and what would you do if your mom acted like me (detaisl below)?

Question

My 13 yo girl is a C cup, so needs much support. I'm that kind of mom who worries a lot about my kids. So, for her best, I make her wear bras that give much support and protection, with thick tisue and 4 hooks in the back, like the one at http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,104,1478,39236__products-detail.htm She doesn't enjoy, but we have a good relationship, she knows I love her and wants her best, so she obeys, though she'd rather wear another kind of bra and sometimes complains. But on this point I'm firm, though with much love.
If your mom dis that to you, would you obey? Would you make fusses , rebel, something like that? Would you do things like taking it off behind your mom's back or wearing another bra when you're not home and your mom is not around?

Answer 1

Funny...your "daughter" Mimi posed the exact same question yesterday.

What a coincidence.

Or NOT. All of a sudden, her (and your) past question and answer history is marked private.

What, are you getting off by talking about bras or something? Weirdo.

Answer 2

Okay so I understand that you want the best for your daughter but honestly a bra with 4 hooks in the back makes me think of older women. The fact that she is 13 makes that point even harder for her..she probably feels like a "grandma" or something. Since she only a C cup (which is indeed big for a 13 year old, but noy HUGE) and not a Double D or something she can wear bras that support but not overly support or LOOK like they overly support. Maybe you guys can just compromise and find her a full support bra without the "grandma" look. Being uncomfortable and having you force her to wear these things might make her resent you and you don't want that. Maybe in a few years she will understand that you only wanted the best for her...but you do not want her to resent you until then. Just compromise and I think you guys will be fine. I personally would be pissed off if my mom made me wear those bras at 13, so maybe you should try to think of it in her perspective. =)

Answer 3

Most 13 year old girls (including myself) would enjoy wearing something that gives them a lot of support. However, it sounds to me like your daughter isn't ready for that kind of responsibility and knows it. Talk to her about. What does she not like about it? Is it uncomfortable? She can get a good, non-underwire bra that is a lot more comfortable. If she doesn't want to, don't make her wear bras when it's just your family at home. Ask her what she wants. If she wants to just wear a sports bra, let her. She's not ready. She's probably not really making a fuss. She has an objection, so listen to it, and try to understand.

Answer 4

If I was her age...yes probably I would put on another bra...I have been a C since I was probably around 14 and I had no problem with the regular bras...nothing super sexy or anything, but a regular underwire maidenform bra was my favorite...it gave support and was very comfortable...a C is actually a very common bra size for women especially 34 to a 36 C...they are always sold out in stores..and with younger girls having larger chest sizes and older women too they are making bras more and more comfortable rather than having to wear the "grandma" bras....if she and you are both comfortable try shopping around for a more youthful and comfortable bra there are so many different types and brands to choose from without being overly sexed so to speak

Answer 5

Im not a teenager, how ever I had a large cup size when I was your daugthers age. I am now a D, going into a DD because I am pregnant. I do not wear bras like the one your having her wear. They make good bras that are not so big and so granny looking. Take her some place like Victoria Secret were they can size her and find a good supporting bra for her.

Answer 6

I am now 20. My mom wanted me to do this and i was so embarrased. She finally realized how unreasonable she was being and let me get the cute bras. I felt so much more confident just for myself. I think that you should let her be young. There are supportive bra's out there that don't look like granny bras. Let her feel young and lady like. It doesn't mean anyone but her will see them. If she really hates it you should take her feelings into consideration and then you will not have to worry about her "rebelling"

& look at it this way if you are understanding about this she will be more likely to come with you about bigger issues than a bra... Its very true.

Answer 7

if i was 13 i would not wear that bra. but if that bra was the only type my mom gave me i wouldn't fuss over it since at my house you never get your way by whining. id be forced to wear it so i would. im 15 now but when i was 13 i had c cups too. instead of picking out my bras me and my mom went bra shopping. she only wears bras from victorias secret so thats where all of mine are from too. im size 36c and the body bras hold me in really nice. they are pretty expensive but i think its worth it. i think your daughter would rather wear one of those. and if when you get there she doesn't like the body bras there are a lot if other bras that are as good as the bodys that she will like. my mom is a size 36c too and she likes the angel bras.

Answer 8

I think that's way unfair... i mean she shouldn't have to wear those kind of bras she's only a C cup. If my mom did that to me, of course i'd wear different bra's behind her back. As long as she can fit into the bra's she likes, then don't force her to wear those granny ones. & didn't she just post this same question.... that's a bit odd don't you think?

Answer 9

Yo should just let your daughter try her kind of bra or whatever

Answer 10

when i was living with my mom she tried to get me to ware a certain kind of bra...no padding, no wire..... well i wouldn't even hear of it because i felt i needed the wire and i needed the padding because my nipples could show through with out the padding..... so yeah i would make a fuss..... but id compromise with her some how.