Why Do People Still Have a Problem With .....?

Question

Intercultural/Interracial Dating ???

It's inconceivable for me to understand the issues that still surround intercultural relations?

I was listening to a group of men talk (I don't want to get reported so I want state what they were) and some of the things I heard was incredibly stupid.

Yahoo answers is filled with bashing of these relationships too -- hahaha, but they person puts the question in a form so it doesn't same like they are bashing intercultural/interracial dating.

Why do people still hold reserves? Is there something I'm not getting?

James q ... I have heard that same kind of crap from people just like you. Are you that narrow-minded to actually think kids have issues just because of what their parents are???? LOL!!! Man, you are pretty dense :D

Now that I think about it, if I were to date someone who was another nationality/race or whatever, would he have problems with me? Goodness, I hope not, haha that would be chaotic!

When I was in high school, I dated guys without a care in the world. Now, that I'm a college student, I feel the same way but now I wonder if the guys would feel the same way as I do. Hmm, pondering this is interesting :P

Answer 1

I think it's simple: people fear from what they don't know/understand. Most of the people are not emotionally mature enough and they can't understand the differance between cultures and it's value. İf somebody acts or reacts "strange" according to them, they just want to stay away from these "strangers" because of their own insecurities and low self confidence. Prejudices shape these people's lives and they usually generalize things that are similar to them. Same thing happens in the situation where our prejudiced person thinks germans are hardworking and disiplined so he/she won't expect to see a lazy german, but in reality there is no homogenous nation! We are not some factory product, we are all different and unique. So if people able to see through their prejudices world will be much more livable place.

Answer 2

The reason the relationships are cause for angst is because there are still a lot of racist non-minorities, and this causes minorities that aren't racist to approach these relationships with "a grain of salt".

Even though the couple may love each other... a black mother may not want to see her black son with a white woman because of the historic hate that he may be exposed to.

A white man would not want to see his white daughter with a black son because for a lot of white people this means pollution of their gene pool and an end of their family line. There is also money and assets involved in their minds... So there is a force from the racist sect of Americas population that reinforces the pull back from the non-racist population. So its two fold and self -perpetuating. (When parents express these fears to their children they in effect teach racism to the next generation.)


With America's Majority being largely racist, (regardless of how they try to put it on the Internet). This is not an issue that will go away soon. If a person chooses to date outside their race, they should be well aware of the social backlash and angst that will follow. (Yes there are exceptions but they are not the norm.)

In the end Love knows no laws, folkways or mores... do what you feel is right in your heart.

Answer 3

Things have not really changed.

I know television can sometimes be sterile and there are supposed laws, etc, but people really are taught (most people, not all) that they should only be with THEIR OWN

Also, and this is important, is the work and problems associated with such relationships...

As a person who has dated interracially and interculturally I can tell you that you are doing battle daily....

A lot of people DON'T want the work and stress of that....

And there are other feelings besides hate involved with other people, like jealousy and mental issues...

This kind of dating is hardly ever between the 2 people themselves, alone

I hope you find a person, no matter what their color, culture is...

Good luck.

Answer 4

No one gets it. Most people are small minded cowards. America, I believe has the largest amount of cowards, totally gutless losers. I am in an interracial relationship and "both sides" are cool with it . It depends on where you live if you live in bigotville, yes you will have trouble. Not all interracial couples are liberal many are not, I know quite a few. Yet I would laugh if a racist coward gets up in my face, I am a martial arts teacher..let it happen, it is actually fun to see lsers like racist losers get knocked out

Answer 5

People often seek partners outside their race/culture due to insecurities, self hatred, racial guilt, and other reasons which aren't entirely healthy. If say a white guy looks ill upon a white woman dating a black man, is as much "why isn't she with me? What does she not like about white guys?" rather than "What on earth could she possibly like about that black dude?".

I dated black women before, and really deep down there isn't a difference, but cultures (of all types) put thick layers of well attitude than make it hard to relate to other races..

Answer 6

I am biracial, myself. So I can't say I have a problem with it. To each their own. I don't think people should have a problem with those who prefer to stay within their race, so I think your point of view is somewhat flawed in that you seem to think that pro-monorace relationships = anti-interracial relationships, when the truth is, we all gravitate to what we have a preference in. Being mixed, I tend to only date other mixed women. So, technically speaking, I prefer monoracial relationships as I consider my race to be a sum of my parents race, which is no longer equal to them, individually. I attribute this mainly to a desire to be with a woman that knows what it's like to be me, where we can draw from similar experiences and common interests. Still, I don't hate on those who chose love over color.

Answer 7

Why is it considered a problem (or racist) if someone wants to date within their race? I'm not racist nor do I have a problem with others who will date inter racially. I however, am not attracted to another race but then again I'm not attracted to the extreme white (scared of the sun looking white) either. I believe it to be preference. Those that do, will, and those that don't, won't. As my father once told me, "...we all bleed red."

Answer 8

Racist people need Jesus Christ as their Lord and Saviour. Your color will not get you in heaven, believing and having faith in Christ gets you into heaven and sets yuo free from racism. What if God in heaven looks different than you. By the way many biracial children that i know are more solid and sound than uniracial kids. two cultures, tow different outlooks on life.

Answer 9

I think there will always be people who are against inter-racial relationships. No matter how much our times/culture/society might change. Unfortunately it'll always be there. It's really pathetic if you ask me.

Answer 10

Someone who worries about their potential date partner's race or national origin doesn't need to be dating *anyone*.