I want a baby...?

Question

should i tell my fiance how im feeling or should i hold off on telling him till after we get married...we have been together for about 2 and a half years and ive been feeling this way for a while now... how should i tell him?

we have talked about it but it was a few months back and we decided we were going to wait but latley i have been having defferant feelings and wanting one sooner

Answer 1

2 1/2 years huh! Well you should, by now, feel comfortable about any and everything with him..... at least I am with my man of 2 years. You know him best.... so only you know how he would react to certain things... It couldn't hurt anything just to 'talk' about it! AND, he IS your fiance.... this prob will not be the hardest thing you have to discuss with him... you have a whole lifetime ahead of you! Whatever doesn't kill you makes your stronger.... Good luck.
p.s. Maybe he feels the same way...you never know til you talk about it!

Answer 2

"Being together" and being married are not the same thing.

Remember, what seems like a fun idea now is actually going to be a lot of work. It was hard enough on my husband and I when we had our first child. We did not receive WIC or welfare, and having a baby is expensive.

Try committing to marriage first. The way you handle the commitment of marriage will be a good indicator of whether or not you both are ready for a child.

Answer 3

If you can't be honest with him in your engagement, it doesn't speak well of your compatibility in marriage. By all means, he needs to know your feelings. Has he mentioned wanting children? He may be waiting for you to broach the subject. Also, you should get married prior to having children, because if the children grow up in an environment of 'living together' it sends the wrong message about love, sex, marriage, commitment and a whole host of things.

Answer 4

I would just be honest with your fiance. I mean, you guys are getting married. What's the worst thing that could happen? I would definately tell him how you're feeling. He could be feeling the same way. Just tell him, i don't think there's a certain way that you have to go about telling him. Good luck!

Answer 5

Tell him that you want to start a family with him. Make sure you are 100% ready kids/babys are more work than you could ever emagaine, wait till your 100% sure its what you want! Good luck

Answer 6

well i should hope the discussion about kids comes up long before you get married anyway. Nobody should get married without agreeing to have children AND discussing when they want to. Just say, you know since were getting married soon, maybe we should discuss our thoughts on kids.....

Answer 7

If you are engaged to be married,you should definitely be talking to each other about children to make sure that you are both on the same page.The issue of children and when to have them is something you have to agree on BEFORE marriage...

Answer 8

Be honest, find a time and place where you will not be disturbed and talk to him let him know how strongly you feel about this. Who knows he may want the same thing. Good Luck.

Answer 9

PLEASE don't have a kid before you get married...it creates way too many complications. If you want to be with him, and you want him to be your husband and father to your future kids, talk to him about marriage first. You can also discuss other things that will happen after you do get married (finances, kids, religion, etc.).

Answer 10

You definitely need to tell him. It would suck for you if ya'll got married & he did not want to have children. There are many subjects that need to be discussed before the "I Do's".