If a person close to you has a habit that annoys you, ... :) ?

Question

do you tell them?

It's not an addiction, or anything much important but, still, you'd like them to stop doing that, at least around you. What do you do?

Thank you for your answer! Have a wonderful day! :)

Answer 1

I think it's much easier just to be straight-forward. There a gazillion other reasons and opportunities in life to side-step around and even over-think another's emotional reaction. An annoying habit of someone close to me? Not one of those instances for me.

Much more difficult if it's someone I don't know very well. THEN, there may be a little side-stepping and over-thinking.

It sounds stange that we often consider the emotions of strangers more and also as more delicate than those close to us?? Weird. Perhaps the reason has something to do with the unpredictability of stranger's emotions or the impact an adverse reaction will have on a particular interpersonal dynamic...

Moon, you really got me thinking on this one! Great question! You're questions are so light but thought-provoking at the same time ;-). Love it!

Answer 2

ahhh! its so difficult! most of the times they wont accept that something is wrong with their habits! but u can do some tricks! for example try to find out somebody else who has the same habit, and show ur hatred from it without pointing him out ,ask his opinion about that particular person's habit and see whats the answer try to show that not only u but nobody likes that certain habit, this will be better, if he is agree then he might have understood that he's having the same habit n hopefully changes it!
if not and u still love that person then unfortunately u have to adapt urself with those habits! try to see good things instead of bothring urself with weak ponits of his character. but if its bothering u too much try to talk about it frankly n not in a questionning way, but in a freindly way so that he wont get annoyed, because human beings are never open to criticism! they always think temselves perfect and its hard to be questionned by dear ones. be careful not to make him use that habit against u while u ll have some quarrels because it would be rediculous! but u can change everything in a person according to ur own choice only if u find out the way and its upto u because u r the close person and u know how to open a way into his heart, if u find it, then changing habits would be so easy, in an undirect way, with a bit of love and with a lot of patience! all the best

Answer 3

I feel that I owe it to them. If their habit annoys me, it my very well annoy others, so what kind of a friend would I be if I didn't at least try to let them know? Conversely, I need to remember to be gracious when that friend is kind enough to point out similar faults that I might have. That first declaration always opens up a whole new avenue of conversation, so it's best to be prepared for the fact that once I breach that subject, I have to be prepared for the consequences that follow. It could be a deepening of our relationship, and it could be the end of a friendship. It's hard to have the courage to face that second possibility, but real friends need to stand up for each other.

Answer 4

My husband and I know without a doubt what gets under eachothers skin in the way of eachothers habits. I have tried to retrain my husband over the years to no avail. ( ha ha ha) That was done by HIS mother. Since I have decided he deserves a wife that doesn't nag, I now bite my lip at the several "nail biting" habits that always get to me.
He does make it easy for me to try and overlook HIS irritating habits, as he everlooks mine with ease because he loves me.
I think it is a good example to follow.

Answer 5

Of course I would tell them because these little annoyances could fester and develop into a serious problem (us humans sometimes get upset by relatively minor things).

I would arrange a trade because it is very very likely that there is something that I do that bothers the other person too. If you stop this, I'll stop that.

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is be honest about it. Don't wait till it annoys you so much you blow up at them for it. Actually if you try and joke it off, like "God can't you please stop doing that *laugh* it drives me fricken crazy." Of corse sometimes the persons a comedian and that backfires becuase they do it more. But then you can say no seriously it bugs me. And they'll quit and hopefully not be offended.

Answer 7

i could ask them some thing like Do you bite ice for a mouth or enamel subject. My cubicle neighbor and that i've got been in basic terms thinking using fact we hear it lots. perhaps he will gett the hint. If he keeps it up i could say in a noisy voice on your cubicle neighbor "Is which you making that God undesirable racket ?" whilst she says no say "Oh must be somebody else" loud adequate for the ice chewer to hearken to. I extremely have a similar subject. My cubicle companion smells like an ashtray as he is going out and smokes each and every a million/2 hour. Hate that scent.

Answer 8

Yeah but I am a brazen person.. I just tell them in a poking fun kind of way and make a joke out of it.. usually it makes them stop when around me :) Just be a bit if a *****

Answer 9

Yes, my "significant other!" has the habit of shaking his leg all the time and if were at dinner the entire table is shaking and it makes me INSANE! But he claims he cant help it! OH man it makes me crazy! I tell him all the time!

Answer 10

I tell them it annoys me and would they please stop.....a lot of times we do silly things and don't realize we're doing it....People get on to me for chewing on my lip and swinging my leg when they're crossed....and when I go to bed I will lay there and shake my leg or rock to fall asleep....I don't even realize I'm doing it until they mention it....So I've kinda learned to just ignore their little habits now....