I have been with my boyrfriend for 5 years in november, he's been divorced twice before, and sometimes i think, id like to get married, but then i think i don't want to be just another wife of his. and i don't want to go through the actual process. and the idea makes me feel sick in my stomach, not full of pleasure! he said the other day he thinks it's just a front, but i know he doesn't want to get married having been divorced twice already. does that make me weird? or do i have another issue? i can't figure it out.
2007-06-12 23:21:17 · 14 answers · asked by bliggyblob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No its just a personal preference, I dont want to get married either.
2007-06-12 23:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by *Bri* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are weird. I just think you are not ready. For some people...just because they have met someone, they feel that marriage is the only thing that will keep them together, but others like you feel and deep down inside..you are still finding out more about your partner. You are getting aquainted with the idea of soul mates..the whole matrimony affect..This doesnt mean you dont love him. Its just that you need more time. You might be the type of person who doesnt rush into things..unlike your partner..you're just more careful. You're still exploring the world of love, being together etc. If you really do not want marriage at this point, its ok..its not weird..people live together for years and are happy. Getting married is just making the relationship legal. If your partner is okay with your decision..i dont see why you should worry.. Take your time..
2007-06-13 06:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by mysteryprincess_23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just wrote that he doesn't want to get married either. So what's wrong? You both don't want to get married. That's great if your going according to the way you feel, no matter how long you are together.
Never get married if you are not ready to make a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, till death do you part. Your making the right decision. Just keep enjoying life together. Your far from weird.
2007-06-13 06:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is wierd not to get married. I dont think you need to have a family or children raised with two caring parents. I think it is fine to just live your life alone and to fill it with friends and service to community and your work. I do however think if you want a family then it should be with the chance of two loving parents who raise children who are loved and cared for. I think the problem is that people want the benefits of marriage without the commitment of it.
2007-06-13 06:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by msqtech 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes you pretty savvy.. You're wise enough to take into account you may become just another wife. Marriage works for some and for others it's not for them.. Look at uh Gene Simmons and Shannon Tweed.
2007-06-13 06:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a fear due to something that you have either experienced or seen happen in life. Don't worry, no one will force you to get married. You decide what you want to do. I would suggest, however, that if you plan to have children, you seriously consider marriage.
2007-06-13 06:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you feel the way you do about marriage then you should NOT get married.
There may come a time when you feel differently.
Good Luck
2007-06-13 06:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something in your relationship that isnt right and you dont want to either admit or talk to your b/f about it, and if your having these feelings I wouldnt get married either, but if there is something going on in your relationship with your b/f i would definitely talk to him about it....
2007-06-13 08:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because the idea does not appeal to you, does not make you weird. If you picked your nose and ate it, that would be closer.
2007-06-13 06:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it just you cannot put your trust with a trend of divorce by your boyfriend.
2007-06-13 06:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋