2007-06-12 20:53:24 · 17 answers · asked by Jay 007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both have grown up children, but are deeply and passionately in love, without the knowledge of their spouses, Will this relation work? Help us out.
2007-06-12 20:56:52 · update #1
Marriage does not prevent a person from falling in love with someone else. If two people spend enough time together and enjoy one another's company, there is nothing to prevent them from falling in love no matter what their circumstances are. That being said, a married man should not be putting himself in a situation that allows him to fall in love with another woman.
Then again, it could happen between friends or co-workers without either of them intending for it to happen or doing anything to encourage the other. In this case, both should keep their spouses in mind and either suppress their feelings, or leave their spouses before starting a new relationship.
2007-06-12 20:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Justin H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-06 09:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Maryam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As kevin_4508 said (and I have said for a long time) people are fully capable of loving more than one person. They do it with their kids all the time, love equally. To me, marriage is unnatural even though I got married before realizing this. Forsaking all others? Really? So it's like mutual ownership? The ultimate possessiveness? It reminds me of a child who is upset because their "best friend" plays with someone else. The problem is that the church set up all these rules and everyone, even those who don't go to church or may even be athiests, has blindly accepted it. Maybe people are insecure and are afraid of their lover no longer "liking them best". Whatever... the barrier to sexual relations without borders needs to be the final barrier broken. If anyone is concerned about "not being liked best anymore" then they need to try harder to be the best lover. I see so many pathetic relationships that, instead of divorce, need some spicing up with other partners. We have laws to encourage competition and destroy monopolies in the business world. Why not let relatinships be competitive. Lovers will eventually spend the most time with their favorite lovers in the end. Marriage is simply forcing someone to stay with their first, not necessarily their favorite as time goes by. Why penalize someone or make them feel guilty if the better one came along years after their first one?
2013-11-15 01:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I guess so. But, in my opinion, if you're married and feel yourself being drawn to that type of situation, it is best to remove yourself from that position until you've had time to consider if you want to see the marriage you're in end. Bottom line: Don't start nothing new until you have ended what you had before. Also, think about this, if you'll leave your wife to be with another woman, what will stop you from leaving that woman to be with someone else. And if she leaves her man to be with you, how can you feel secure knowing that she left someone for you. Not a good way to start any relationship. Cool your jets and think hard on this.
2007-06-12 20:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by Silkeez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it happens! You are married, NOT dead!
Not the best situation to be in, but just be grateful that you are in each other's lives. How wonderful that you are still able to love deeply another human being. It just hurts that you have to be secretive about it.
I guess you both can't leave your respective spouses so just enjoy your moments together.
Sometimes it going to hurt like hell that you guys can't be together more often. I do not know what else to do!!
2007-06-12 23:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Glo in the dark 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes and still love his wife very much as well.
I guess it's a bit like having 3 or 4 children just because you love the first one it does not stop you loving the others as they come along.
What do you do about it?
I have no idea.
2007-06-12 21:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by kevin_4508 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is so wrong! Can you imagine how that would make her feel? Think back to high school dating, and the tragic loss you felt every time you got dumped. It's much, much worse after a MARRIAGE. That is a terrible thing to do to someone.
2007-06-12 20:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by luminousnerd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer your 1st question: Yes, because the heart doesn't recognize marital status.
To answer your 2nd question: Only 3% of those involved in adulterous affairs stay together, so use your head for once...
2007-06-13 03:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im married, yet i love my married best friend very deeply.
2007-06-12 20:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its very possible, but will surely cause problems in both yours and her marriage.
2007-06-12 20:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by courtney_825 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋