What do you suggest I do?

Question

Everytime I try to converse with my husband he refuses, when Something is wrong with him I ask him whats wrong he says nothing when I know something is wrong. I try to plan things but he always rather stay in. The only time we do communicate is when we are arguing...I have come to the point were i feel he has pushed me so much from him I am starting to think we are better as friends and a divorce would be good.

I have suggested counseling but refuses to have someone tell him how to run his life. I dont want us to hate each other if we end up getting a divorce I'd rather be friends than enemy's...help please I do not know what I should do any more

Answer 1

I don't know, that's a toughy. I'm sorry you're having to go through that. =( I don't know if this would cause more problems, but you should try talking to one of his friends. He might know what's going on. Good luck!!!!!!! =)

Answer 2

Study the Bible together. There are principles in there that have saved my marriage and are far from outdated. Ask for the "Family Happiness" book the next time a Jehovah's Witness visits or have them share a couple of scriptures on how husbands and wives should work together and how they should treat each other. Sometimes men find it hard to communicate. I am married to just such a man. This is the only way we've found we are able to work around it. I've learned also that what works in some relationships doesn't work in others. Unless one lives your life, they really are not able to give a complete answer. But the Bible will give you unfalliable divine guidance. Pray about your situation and trust Jehovah to work it out with you.

Answer 3

Your question, posted here in "Polls & Surveys" is yet another example of the lack of facilities available to Men at Answers. Please disregard any, 'less that serious' replies You may receive.
Try inviting some of His friends over for a BBQ. And get Them to talk about 'things'. Men do not communicate with Women for the rather quaint reason that We can never really trust You not to talk (read 'gossip') about Us. Sort of like discussing Our problems with total strangers. A beer, or two, a belly full of 'burnt offerings', some sporting crap (Read: real life professional sporting event) on the idiot box, the bonding of Men (insert 'mandatory testosterone joke' here) and maybe someone might just ask Him. "So, how have things been lately"? Either way, You have shown Your love.

Answer 4

You sound like a smart sweet girl. You need to lay down the law and tell him if he loves you he'll make a choice to communicate and talk about/sort this out. Or give him an ultimatum honey and perhaps parting is better- you deserve a happy healthy social life and relationships!! Especially if there are no kids, leave. Maybe that'll wake him up.

Answer 5

This question posted in polls and surveys...so I guess you want a quick answer.
If you have tried talking, he won't go to counseling, if he keeps pushing you away....I would go.
Some times marriage will ruin a good friendship..so maybe you are better as friends....thanks

Answer 6

unfortunatly it sounds like he's given up already. I dont think you can salvage a friendship out of this situation, nor should you try cause it will cause you more pain in the end. cut the ties, divorce him and get on with your life, thats the one that really matters anyway let him worry about himself.

Answer 7

It takes two and it sounds like someone is not playing. I hope you haven't stopped.......cuz then it's really over then. Good luck, wish I could be more help.

Answer 8

i don't usually condone 'tricks'
but trick him into a counselling session
(some will come to your house)
if he refuses to communicate...
DTMFA

Answer 9

I think you should try counseling by yourself and then go from there.

Answer 10

sounds like you answered your own question...i cant validate your feelings for you....look inside the answer is there