I am in love with a married man I am also married. I have known him a long time and we are best friends he is much older than me, I am 32 and he is 60. We have had this relationship for 13 years he has been married for 30 plus years and I for 14. What do I do????
2007-06-12 18:28:20 · 16 answers · asked by sxy+brains 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG,,, the affairs and cheating questions on here tonight. Is it a full moon or something? Cheating is horrible. Do people not remember there marriage vows? How would you feel if you were the one that was cheated on? If you have a need to cheat then don't get married. If you are married and have a need to cheat the do the right thing and get counseling first, and if that don't work then get a divorce...
2007-06-12 18:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lookin 4 ants 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
BEST ANSWER RIGHT HERE:
1) Enjoy it, you have been doing it since you were a teenager. Why change anything now?
2) Clearly your husband is too stupid to find out, might as well keep going.
3) You never know, the retired guy will pass on someday and maybe he will leave you some do ri me money. He won't do that if the relationship is over.
4) Why get advice from the internet? The above three answers are the only ones you are seeking.
2007-06-13 01:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by EMMY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no good at math, but (unless I'm mistaken) when you were 19 you fell in love with a married man who was 47 at the time and who was already married shortly after you were born. Furthermore, you were already married when you met the married guy.
What do you do? Analyze your feelings. Is it love? or admiration? or respect? Do you think about being married to the guy, and wondering what it would be like to be his wife?
By the way, you say you are in love with the married guy but you do not say if he loves you back. You do not say if you are happily married, or if he is.
As long as you are married, I fear that you must stay away from the married guy. You cannot be friends with this kind of emotional dissonance going on.
You know in your heart what you must do. That is why you asked the question in the first place.
2007-06-13 01:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a person has been married for 30 plus years then it becomes more difficult to leave their partner. The only people that can really answer this question is you and this man. Do you want to leave your family for this man and would he be willing to leave his family for you. Your relationship has certainly lasted the test of time and maybe you both deserve to have a little bit of happiness together. Unfortunately this will be at a very emotional cost to everyone involved and you both have to decide whether the cost will simply be too great.
2007-06-13 01:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lock 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love or lust .
for 13 yrs ,you been getting away having a sugar daddy ,and still be married ,must be the secret ,keep an older sugar daddy and your husband will never find out .
I've seen allot clever people ,but you the cleverest i ever met.
you been cheating all along ,but one yr since you got married ,why bother getting married?
you have daddy issue's.
get therapy.
2007-06-13 01:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop this affair immediately. You are committing adultery. Adultery comes with dire consequences, you have free will to commit adultery, but you can not decide the consequences. The fires of hell are licking at your heels and his too. Read the Holy Bible and see what God has to say about it, He is the one you have to answer to. Hurry now, time is short, you are not promised another moment. Do the right thing before it is too late.
2007-06-13 01:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you you have been cheating pretty much all of yuor marraige? how does your husband not know about this? I am sorry, and I understand that you love him, but can you really trust the old dude not to do the same to you? I would say to end it, clearly you dont very much love your husband so leave him too, and try to work out what it is you REALLY want
2007-06-13 01:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Both of you are cheating on your spouses. How would YOU feel, if your husband was doing what you are doing? I suggest stop seeing your "best friend" all together, and work on your marriage. You can't have both, and since you PROMISED yourself to your husband, you really only have one option here.
2007-06-13 01:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should do absolutely nothing! You are married and he is married. Enough said. Forget about each other and concentrate on your marriage.
2007-06-13 01:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Randy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi my friend, beware,beware,beware, in my opinion quickly rupture your relationship with the old man, you are so emotional, but dont decide and traet emotionally, you better focus your all attention to your husband and your family. it is advisable and surely you soon will see the profits of such decision.
good luck
2007-06-13 01:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋