2007-06-12 18:21:18 · 23 answers · asked by luvmepinkbabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There isn't any Pros... People get hurt when a man or woman have a affair... It's wrong wrong wrong...
2007-06-12 18:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lookin 4 ants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pro's - if he's paying a prostitute, at least he can be honest with everyone, and say he didn't love her.
Con's - You end up being the person who wrecked the marriage. Society ostricizes YOU for being a home-wrecker. If he leaves her for you, you honestly can never trust him to not do the same thing to you some day. You end up with a social disease because he's cheating on BOTH of you right now, with someone else. You end up wasting your life pining away for some may who's more likely to buy a sportscar this year, than he is to leave her for you.
2007-06-12 18:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros: None.
Cons: He's married. He's someone else's husband. You would be hurting her, her parents, her brothers and sisters, her friends, and their children if they have any. You will be considered an adulteress, a mistress, a whore, a homewrecker, someone who can't get her own man so she stole someone else's, and the list goes on. You will be dating a guy who you know up front is a cheater and a liar and a sneak. Maybe I watch too many crime shows, but you could end up getting killed if his wife is the crazy psycho type.
Find your own man, for crying out loud!
2007-06-12 18:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of cons. First. He is a liar. Think about it. He made a committment to someone he claimed to love at the time. So, now he feels it is okay to have an affair with you. He lied before, he will lie again.
Does he have kids? If so...don't expect him to ever leave his wife. Too much at stake. He might LIE and say he is going to leave her "because he loves you SOOOO much", but he won't. You will just end up with a broken heart.
If you go ahead with the affair, do so knowing that it is just an affair. It will end in all probability and you will have had sex and not much else.
NEWS RELEASE!! There are lots of unattached men out there to get involved with. Why not find one of them?
2007-06-12 18:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CON: If a man cheats with you, he will cheat on you.
PRO: If all you want is a relationship is to be secretive, 2nd in importance, extra money if he has any, called negative names, like sl-t, wh-re, dummy, low self esteem, and the like, if you want to be lonely on holidays, birthdays (yours and his), have children who will be considered bast-rds by the world, or have a man who wants no "more" children and deny you that right, if you want a hard, lonely life, then you need to mess with a married man. I GUARANTEE YOU WILL GET ALL OR MOST OF THE ABOVE.
2007-06-12 18:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around sweetie will definately come around
Pros: NONE
Cons: Its a shame for you to even think about it
Hopefully when you finally get married and have children, you'll see the pros and the cons.
Maybe you'll even meet your maker and get your @#$ whooped, then you won't think about pros and cons
2007-06-12 18:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by hez_able 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with someone that hides things from their partner? You can't change people and that trait in him could come out when he feels he needs to hide something from YOU someday.
PRO's :
You have the attention of someone that likes or loves you
You are not loneley
You may have great sex ;-)
CON's :
You could never trust him 100 percent.
You empower him to hide from another woman and hurt her.
You have to share emotional attention with another woman
(even if he hates her)
The baggage will not go away... "when he leaves her"
The only way I see it is good is if they are completely separated NOW and divorce is pending :)) good luck. you deserve the best!!
2007-06-12 18:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by omni4tress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one that admits hes married or working on a divorce or has a girlfriend, its all the same thing.run away fast.
you end up hurt, embarrased, in trouble legally and probably with lots of bills and trying to excuse yourself for being with him in the first place. find someone truly available or pay the consequences. that simple, run fast.
2007-06-12 18:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by channyt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an awful thing to do. To the man, to the woman he is married too, and to yourself! Why would anyone short change themselves that way? You can be certain that if he is cheating on her, he will cheat on you one day.
2007-06-12 18:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi LuvMe,
As long as you are his wife there should be no problem. Otherwise, you should NOT be with him because he is already taken and our FATHER forbids him to be "with you". You do NOT want to be a homewrecker. That is truly not the kind of person that you want to be known as. Have a nice week.
Thanks,
Eds
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2007-06-12 18:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋