2007-06-12 18:14:08 · 13 answers · asked by bebe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She used to tell me this when we went on our honeymoon - the reason i was never able to understand. She continued saying the same thing all the while. Stayed with me for 7 months after our marriage and left me. And now tells me she doesn't want to return to me but wants me to promise her that i'll stay as her friend forever.
2007-06-12 18:29:50 · update #1
umm, maybe you should think about becoming "just friends".
2007-06-12 18:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by David b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That must hurt your feelings quite a bit. I would suggest marriage counseling or discussing a divorce. That's really not the kind of thing that a happy person would say to their partner. You both deserve to be happy and there's still a chance for that.
2007-06-13 01:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is very disappointed in the marriage and maybe doesnt mean it as a personal attack on you. Thats the kind of thing people say out of frustration when argueing. Maybe counseling or clergy to help sort some feelings out would help. good-luck.
2007-06-13 01:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is really hurtful to hear her say, but I wouldn't want to spend one second of my life with someone who didn't want me. Ask her if she wants to save your marriage or not so you can put an end to this game she's playing and find out what's really going on. Maybe you can work things out, and if you can't, the sooner you know the better. I'm sorry you're going through this. Hang in there.
2007-06-13 01:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TIME TO THINK SERIOUSLY ABOUT GETTING A DIVORCE AND JUST BECOME 'FREINDS WITH BENEFITS' TILL YOU EACH MEET SOMEONE ELSE.
She just may be saying this in frustration, when you do not do what she wants, she blames herself for having ''settled' in marrying you. She regrets the marriage.
Or, she truly wants out, but for many reasons, has to stay married. If she feels stuck in the marriage, (misery loves company) this is her way to make you feel stuck also.
Question what that means and have her explain it in full. Good Luck.
2007-06-13 01:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to her ask her is that what she really wants and if that is what she really wants I would give her, her wishes. Don't ever stay with someone if they don't want you. She may already be with someone else that she wants as a husband and she may be trying to make you leave her. Talk to her and see where her head is
2007-06-13 01:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by hez_able 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start asking around for divorce lawyer recommendations from your friends and co-workers.
2007-06-13 01:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ask about the reason then tell her i loved very much then a friend does.
2007-06-13 01:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by Nantha K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE THE SPARK HAS FADED,PEOPLE TENT TO FORGET WHAT MADE THEM FALL IN LOVE TO START WITH,THEY GET COMFORTABLE,AND TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANITE,BRING THE ROMANCE BACK OR SEEK COUNSELING
2007-06-13 01:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by trouble13d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is questioning whether or not you two made a mistake. How long have you been married?
2007-06-13 01:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that's a terrible thing to say to someone your suppose to love...
2007-06-13 01:19:06 · answer #11 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋