How wrong is it have thoughts about a married man?

Question

My best friend is sleeping with a married man, I didn't try to talk her out of it because I thought it would make her resent me. Well I recently got into a situation that could have lead me to sleep with a married man, sadly it's been going on for quite some time. Even though I haven't acted upon anything, I find myself thinking about him a lot more than I would like to. I bump into him in a lot of places and he's not helping the situation because he wants to. I've been resisting but I don't know how much more I can take.

Answer 1

I heard once that you're only as strong as the people you surround yourself with, and in this case, you've surrounded yourself with a some bad influences, and some weak people....your best friend and this married man. No matter how great your best friend may be, she's obviously not happy in her own life and needs to barrow someone elses (hence her married man).That is her choice. Do not make the same mistake. I cannot judge, but really, affairs never end up well for anyone. They cause pain, hurt and damage often beyond repair, they ruin friendships, marriages, relationships and trust. They stir up feelings of betrayl, jealousy and all kinds of nasty feelings...life is hard enough, why stir the pot? Please don't allow yourself to be so easily influenced by your friend. She may be great on all other levels in life, but she's got it really wrong on this one. Don't follow in her footsteps, please. An affiar is not a fashion accesorry or a trend. It's disrespectful and wrong. And the first step to preventing an affair to stop it in its tracks. Do not flirt with this married man any longer. While it's normal to have thoughts of other people at certain times, and crushes can be healthy...blantantly putting yourself in an (seemingly) availlble position to have an affiar is not a good idea. Even if you're not married, HE IS. It takes two to tango, so if he had an affair, it woudln't be all his fault, part of it would be yours. Can you live with that? Can you live with possibly destroying someone else's marriage? Perhaps it isn't a good one, but it's theirs, not yours. Leave the guy alone. Don't stoop to temtpation and don't even let temptation near you. I'd cut ties with this man if you're even close to having an affiar. It's the only fair and respectful thing to do, for yourself, for him and all involved. Sleeping with someone's else someone is never smart. Five minutes of great sex may be great, but it's not worth the pain, agony and possible demise of someone's marriage or life. An affair is just not worth it, no matter how great or tempting it may seem. The grass is not always greener on the other side! Find someone that is capable and willing to love you the way you deserve to be loved! But first, start with loving yourself! It's so worth it when all of that comes together! Goodluck!

Answer 2

there's nothing wrong with "thoughts" as long as they stay just thoughts. Don't forget this guy has a wife that probably loves him dearly and kids to boot. Do you really think you want that on your conscience. Poor Mrs.Married Man at home waiting for her husband to be done screwing around with you. Just walk away honey, because these things NEVER end well, for either party. Most not all married men want their cake and eat it too if they can get away with it.

Answer 3

Why is that women always want what they cant have. Look at your options. You sleep with him and you just be a booty call and he will get on with someone else when he gets tired of you. You don't sleep with him and you keep your self respect. In the end he will respect you more if you stay away from him it will show him you have high standards and will not stoop to his level. Also think of his wife what if it was you.

Answer 4

It's not wrong to have the thoughts; heck, we're all human. But acting out on those thoughts can sometimes show our lack of discipline & control. I'm sure it's tough, though! Married guys have figured out how to be more relaxed & playful. They can take greater risks in talking to ladies; if things don't work out, they've got a wife at home to "fall back on".

So be careful! Have as many naughty thoughts as you want. Just keep them in your head and out of your bed, and you'll save yourself a lot of trouble later!

Answer 5

The thoughts aren't wrong, taking action is. And you know it. Be wise and don't give in. Find yourself a single man. This route only leads to pain and heartbreak for all concerned including you.

Answer 6

don't do it...you'll feel like an idiot later when he moves on to the next girl. Why would you want to be with a cheater, and furthermore someone you can never have to yourself and can't even be out in public with? Seriously girl, give your head a double shake!

Answer 7

I think it's wrong to spend time thinking about a married man. Stop it.
The more you think about it, the harder it will be to resist.

Answer 8

withdraw yourself from that situation immediately. you will regret it later. remember "the devil's voice is sweet to hear." this man has obviously no respect for himself, for his wife, nor for you, he is not worth it. and you don't deserve this. the fact that your friend did it, by no means makes it right specially if you are in a relationship yourself or children are involved. please don't let yourself become someone you will later regret, because regret you will.

Answer 9

Thoughts? You can't help your thoughts. I suppose I should tell you it's wrong, but I can't because I'm in love with a married man. I can't judge. Sometimes it happens and I don't regret it. How can I regret it when I love him so much?

Answer 10

Find a way. I have been on both sides of tha relationship and it always turns out bad