i want my baby back?

Question

i gave my newborn son up for adoption about 4 months ago. Now that it's past the 90 day waiting period, do i have any chance of revoking my consent? i'm about to get married and i want us to be a family (by the way the adoption was done under south carolina law).

Answer 1

Call an attorney and explain your situation.

Did hte father sign the form?

Answer 2

I'm assuming that you originally put your child up for adoption for the good of the child. You made a very mature, responsible decision. Now you have to understand that you are playing with a lot of other people and their feelings/emotions. the people that you gave your child to have very strong bonds with the child.. . and the child with the new parents.

I know that you want to have a family now... but I'm afraid that things won't work out as picture perfect as you are imagining... you are in a new relationship. Nothing puts more stress on a relationship than the responsibilities of an infant that ties you down.

I don't know anything about SC law... You would need to contact an attorney. The fight won't be cheap if the option is even available to you at this point.

I feel for you, and the pain and guilt that you are most likely feeling... but I am also thinking of the emotional pain and suffering of all the other parties involved... the child will always be a part of you and probably never be far from your thoughts... please remember that you made the best, most responsible decision in regards to the welfare of your child... your original decision was made with a pure heart that was full of love for a child that you realized you were unable to give your life to.

Answer 3

I am in South Carolina, and I attended an adoption seminar two weeks ago. There were two speakers - a social worker from DSS and an adoption worker from Bethany. According to what they said, it is very difficult to overturn an adoption in SC. Once you sign over your parental rights, it's done. You cannot change your mind in SC. In Georgia, for example, there is a 90-day waiting period, but there is no waiting period in SC. From what they said, it sounds like the only option for you to get the child back would be if the father did not sign over his rights. I am not condoning or condemning what you want to do; I am just passing along the information I have. I hope this helps, and I hope you make the right decision for everyone involved.

Answer 4

You did the best thing for the child. Be strong and stick with your decision. It is not easy, but the child's needs stability and needs to stay with the adopted parents. If you are getting married, you should continue to have children. You will find it to be a blessing when you can start a family with the right timing. Stay strong.

Answer 5

Ok... Origanally I had put a different answer here, but then I read your history on here. I know it can be hard being young... I am young myself... But a NUMBER of things stand out to me: 1)The baby was possibly a result of rape. 2) You were in an unstable relationship at best less than 5 months ago when you posted a question about moving in with this guy. 3)You said you could not support the baby 4)You wanted to get an education.
I was sympathetic at first because I was given up for adoption as a baby. Many aspects of that have affected me for my whole life.
BUT you put the question on here so you have to be prepared for the answers you get: GET SOME COUNSELING! You sound like you need attention, and honey, this is the wrong place for that. You may have your reasons, but we all do, including me. BUT like you, I have had a child. I am raising her, but because I wanted to have her, prepared for her for my whole life, really and have a stable job and home for her. You need to get stability for you (and your fiance I guess) before you decide to impact an innocent child's life by being their parent. You did not sound ready in your last few posts and I don't see how you would suddenly be ready in four short months. I'm sorry if you have had it rough... I UNDERSTAND! But get some counseling so that you CAN have a family and not make it rough on them in the same ways as your life was or possibly in other ways. DO NOT take that innocent child away from parents that were obviously suited to take him four months ago. They are providing what you could not and that is the best and most loving thing someone in your position can do. Yes it was different being adopted, but my dad was my hero and I wouldn't have traded him for anything! My brother is one of my most favorite people in the world and I have aunts and uncles who love me and have taken care of me since my parents died... As difficult as it was at times, I know after meeting my biological mom that she did the best thing for me. She's fine now and we have a great relationship but it was for the best that she gave me up and it sounds as though this is the same kind of thing.... love him and let him go... PLEASE.

Answer 6

Wow. I saw a movie on that and it was a true story. The child was 2 years old. My personal opinion is that would really affect the baby. The baby has an emotional bond and those first months do alot for the individuals trust and bonding and attachment that will follow through for the rest of his life. After 4 months, if he was to be 'abandoned' (as it would feel for him) by his primary caregivers, that could affect him for the rest of his life. Not to mention that you would ruin the paretns lives.

My opinion. As for laws.. I am sure you could contest it.. as for it you would win, it would depend on the judge i guess.

Answer 7

Aww..I'm sorry to hear about this. It must be very hard for you. I think that after the waiting period there is no chance. After all, you did give him up. Just think about the heartbreak that couple would go through if you took their adopted son away. I understand your feelings though and I'm sorry. Best wishes.

Answer 8

why would you give up your son to begin with? is he with a family now? because if so, & he's been with them for four months, don't do it. think about how heartbroken that family will be. to give them such a great gift like that, & then take it back.

but i don't understand why would you give up something you carried for 9 months? a living thing that depended on you to live. & now all of a sudden, you want him back? taking care & loving a baby isn't a game. if you want him to love him, & care for him, it's a different story. but if you just want him back because all of a sudden you are getting marrid & "want to be a family" ... he was your family. & you decided to give that up. you should have really thought over things before you even gave birth.

Answer 9

this is not the place to ask.......go to your attorney asap

I adopted a little girl 27 years ago and she is the light of my life. If you and the bf aren't stable maybe you need to grow up a bit more and then have a family.

Check into your state law

Answer 10

I don't think you should pursue this. You gave up your rights, you are no longer that child's mother. As harsh as that might sound, it's the truth. Get married and settle down, then think about having a child. This child belongs to them now, and it would be heartbreaking for the parents.

Answer 11

i can understand how you feel, i recently gave twins up for adoption. it can be hard. the one thing that keeps me from trying to get them back is thinking how cruel that would be to the couple that have them now. all that money they spent(in many states they have the right to sue you for it all back plus child support the time they had the child) all the years of heartbreak they had trying to have a baby then waiting for one to become available.
please think really hard, can you really be that cruel? promising a couple a family then stealing it away?