Has anyone here adopted or fostered a child? Or are you adopted?

Question

I've fostered and adopted.

I object to Sandstorms statement saying that a person who didn't give birth can not love that child like the birth parent.

(but then, I object to alot of what Sandy says....)

What do you think...

Answer 1

I've not adopted, but have fostered. I am currently only on the emergency short term list, as my schooling has taken me away from home. I am also a teacher; I am with children everyday.

There are a lot of folks out there that think that if you have no biological children, you can't possibly understand what parenting and love is all about. They are full of crap.

If biological imperative made people able to love more deeply and honestly and respectfully, I would not have had ANY foster children. That would be a nice dream, hey? All people to cherish the children they bring into this world? Every child that has come to me has come from the nastiest of homelives... and from biological parents, I might add.

On a gentler note, love is not always linked to blood. I loved every child that has come into my home, and I broke inside when they left, even (selfishly) when they were returning to a home that had regained it's stability and focus.

I come from a family with NUMEROUS cousins. Yes, some are technically 'foster' or 'adopted' cousins... but family is family. Love is love.

I don't know sandstorm, but wonder if he/she has ever loved someone you know you don't get to keep... to raise, and love, and protect, and all those other things that are just elemental? Caring for children is THE most important job in the world. Worry not who gives the love... just that it is GIVEN, and that child is protected and loved and cherished.

Answer 2

My parents wer foster parents to over 104 different foster parents (no all at the same time) and actually adopted one of them despite the fact that they had two bilogical. They just loved children. I was already out of the house by that time though. I think it is very adirable. I have often thought of adoptind a little girl however I am already 45 years old, now divorced and don't know if I could afford all of the fees. I ABSOLUTELY know that you can love an adopted child as much as your biological children. Especially if they were adopted when they were a foster child. You get go know the child even before you make the decision to adopt. I would not pay much attention to what ole Sandstorm has to say.

Answer 3

No it is not achieveable in view which you're in the care of your father or mom, and it would could be their determination to undertake a 2 twelve months previous. No foster care software might provide a sixteen twelve months previous a foster baby, they like adults that could good grant and look after young ones adopting foster infants.

Answer 4

I was a foster child. Not recommended.

I know people who have adopted children. They love them dearly. They are so precious to them. They would do anything for them.

Love is not defined by a piece of paper. It never will be.

Answer 5

first off no & no
sandstorm would not know what he is talking about!!
Gee we love cats & dogs to bits so children are loved more!!
you naturally just bond with kiddies so much more than an animal well i would & most women not sure about men they may be different but no they love animals as well so they should in time get to love them like their own

Answer 6

I have 2 adopted brothers from Korea. They came as infants, and are 100% American today. They do not know anything of their home country or cultures.

My parents have loved them with all their heart.

Answer 7

I'm a birth parent and I know my daughters parents love her like they are her parents because they have been from day 1

Answer 8

I object to a lot of what he says...my hubby was adopted but they didn't have a good relationship.

Answer 9

i think it's a great choice to adopt.. and then that way you don't have to ruin your body by actually having the kid yourself..

Answer 10

i've been adopted... my parent was AWESOME...