My husband and I for the most part have been best friends. Today he has been an ***. He told me he was going to sign up for everyday overtime just to not be around me anymore. He also said that I spend to much money and he is sick of it while the whole time he is yelling and calling me names. We have been married for 8 yrs now and I wish I wasn't going thru this as I am a person and I thought he was my friend. What changed for this to happen today nothing in our life has gone that bad ....
2007-06-12 17:38:45 · 12 answers · asked by SJ H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's so sweet when men act like complete *****. do me a favor, serve him with divorce papers and leave, you don't need it. say goodbye.
2007-06-12 19:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is having a temper tantrum because he's stressed out and upset about something that doesn't have anything to do with you. I think you were just an easy target today. After both of you calm down, tell him you're sorry about how much stress he's under and ask him if it's really about the money, or if something else is going on. Try not to get too focused on how much he hurt your feelings until you find out what's really bothering him. It might have nothing to do with money or overtime or you, like I said. Once he calms down and starts to talk about what's going on, he'll probably apologize to you on his own. If he doesn't, tell him that he hurt your feelings, and you're trying to be a good wife, just like he's trying to be a good husband. I think this will all work out. I can't count how many times my husband has hurt my feelings, and I hope he doesn't keep track of how many times I've hurt his. Stress and arguing and sticking your foot in your mouth is part of being in a marriage, and this will pass and you'll be all right. Hang in there!
2007-06-12 17:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you spend too much money? I would keep track of what I spend and what I spend it on...if you handle the money than he may not have a clue about how much things cost or where the cash is going. If that doesn't work than perhaps there is another problem. A change in schedule and attitude often means an affair...and of course he is going to make it look as if it is your fault to hide his guilt at his infidelity.
There is no reason to call a person names and scream at them...it is called verbal abuse. Verbal abuse can kill the soul as quickly as physical advice can kill the body.
2007-06-12 17:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, there is clearly something wrong other than, "its been 8 perfect years and now he blows". sorry, its too unlikely. however, its not doomed necessarily. whenever you interact with him, be sure to be calm and listen to what he is saying before replying. it looks like you guys should try therapy out - try couples therapy for two or three months, then evaluate how its going. therapy could help both him and you sort out what is not working in your relationship. however, if he is becoming abusive - whether physically or verbally -- you need to take yourself out of the situation for your own safety. if you have kids, this is especially important: go live with a family member or close friend for a couple days, at the very least. if you fear for your safety or someone else's safety, contact the police and do not go to places where you might run into him. good luck.
2007-06-12 17:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by cc41girl88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe he's been holding some things inside and it came out tonight. Maybe he has been trying to be your bestfriend and in the process of it he wound up holding some feelings inside to make sure he didn't hurt yours. Maybe there is something else involved in his anger and it came out today. It could have something to do with work or something else outside and happened to take it out on you. Talk to him first before you make a conclusion. Good Luck
2007-06-12 17:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by ediabullo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COULD BE A FEW THINGS HOWS THE LOVE LIFE IF A MAN IS LACKING THERE HE CAN GET CRANKY OR DEPRESSED,OR HOPEFULLY HE'S NOT LOOKING FOR A WAY OUT AND IF SO IT WONT MATTER HE WILL KEEP FINDING THINGS WRONG,UNTIL YOU CANT DEAL WITH IT AND WANT OUT HE MAY JUST BE LOOKING FOR A EXCUSE TO LEAVE,TRY BRINGING THE SPARK BACK,SURPRISE HIM,BE LOVING SEXY,BE AS TEMPTING AS YOU CAN IF THAT DON'T WORK HE'S GOT A PROBLEM
2007-06-12 17:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by trouble13d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is going through something. Or maybe he felt this way for a long time and never told you and now he is exploding. Let him know you didn't know he felt that way, and what can you do to make it better. Do what it takes.
2007-06-12 18:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you both need to sit down and talk to each other
about what is really going on. as time goes on couple that'have been together for some time need adjustment
about there lifes.counseling also may be in order.
2007-06-12 17:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is certainly angry about something. Let him calm down for a day or two and then ask him what the problem is
2007-06-12 17:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are you spending too much money? That would make me mad too. Let him cool down until he's ready and then talk about whats annoying him and solve the problem.
2007-06-12 17:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless its a pattern it sounds like he is just in a bad mood. We all have them and say things we don't mean. Let it blow over and talk about it when he is in a better mood.
2007-06-12 17:42:23 · answer #11 · answered by xartinu33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋