What is more difficult? Please only people who have teens and have been married longer than 12 years.?

Question

Staying married (never divorcing) or raising kids? Why do you think that is?

Nancyjo: can you even read?! I said STAYING married. that means you CAN'T divorce! That would mean you think staying married is harder.

Answer 1

I find raising the kids to be easier, I wish we could divorce without tearing our family apart and affecting the kids.

Answer 2

Absolutely raising kids is more difficult!! You can divorce your husband, but not your kids! Your husband had a choice when you married him, your kids didn't get to pick their parents. There is nothing or no one in this world more important than your kids. Even when kids don't act like you would like them to, you must remember that they didn't ask to be here; you chose that for them. It is your responsibility to do the best you can do to prepare them for the world; teach them to love and be loved. Show them that no matter what, they are the most important thing in your life. It would be ideal to stay married and raise the kids, but if there is a choice that has to be made (and that is SO sad if that's the case), then go with the kids.

Answer 3

I would say staying married. You will raise your kids and they will grow up and leave home and love you forever. If you stay married(especially in an unloving relationship) you will grow bitter and unhappy. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for and they shouldn't have to see their parents unhappy. They will pick up on that! They both require hard work but if all else fails you can divorce your spouse but children are always a part of you!

Answer 4

It's always better for the family to stay together. Married couples should do what ever they have to not to split up the fam. Divorce hurts everyone, especially the kids.Husbands and wives should be good to each other, selfless, kind, sharing, caring, tolerant, patient, slow to anger, forgiving.......
and teaching their children to do the same and the children are more likely to do the same if that's the way they are raised.

Answer 5

Raising kids is harder. It's difficult to predict what kind of person a kid will grow up to be. You know your spouse - usually, wrong or right, you know him. A child can surprise you in ways you never thought possible. In both cases, there's strong love but raising children is hard work.

Answer 6

Married 20 years, 18 and 10 yr. old sons. I think each is equally difficult, but in different ways. What makes each difficult is that both require constant work and lots of your time. Fortunately, I seem to have done OK with both "jobs." Both require me making compromises and understanding I will not always get what I want.


Kent in SD

Answer 7

I would say that staying married is harder. With kids, there is usually a right path to take in raising them. Even if its not immediately obvious, you can usually find it and lead your kid down it ( even if its rocky ). With marriage, you can see the path but you cant drag your partner down it with you ( usually because of baggage).

Answer 8

Staying married because one day your teenagers will move out of home and that will leave you with only your partner. (Unfortunately your children will continue to ask for money and whatever, even after they leave home, but they will not be totally your headache anymore) I now have the most beautiful grandson whom I am enjoying so much as I can give him back. I would love to be able to give my husband back sometimes

Answer 9

Surrender to situational ethics, with a half nelson of depression. One is too stupid to feel the life slipping away, and not aggressive enough to blow town.