shes controlling jealous & posessive but they have a house and kid togheter, so she has that going for her. im the one he liesk more im nicer and better in bed. what can i do to get him to dump her for me/
2007-06-12 17:22:14 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-12 17:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
OK!!!!!!! LISTEN!!!!!! Immediately throw yourself on your knees with such force that the house shakes!!!!!!!! Now, pray to the lord above he doesn't ever dump her!!!! Why would you wish such a tragedy upon yourself? Look, you think you've got such a fine man don't you? Well, between the both of you women, you've only got half a man. This man has made this woman so insecure, miserable, & unhappy by his cheating she has become that way. If you had a man that cheated on you for years, would you be a confident & happy woman?? This woman is not that much different than you though he would like to make you believe that she is. I don't care how much you love him, you are going to have to let him go. I don't know how you will do it, but you got to find a way. If you allow this man to drain the life out of you then there won't be anything left fot the real love of your life that you are destined to meet. Hold up your head with as much dignity as you can muster, and walk away, with class. Good luck to you. Hey!! Don't forget to pick your favorite answer!!!!!
2007-06-12 21:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm going to try my hardest not to judge you. I have to think that you have ridiculously low self-esteem. Obviously, otherwise you would have more self respect to the be other woman. Marriage is sacred .When a person enters into marriage they are making a LIFELONG commitment to stay with that person despite the adversity that might come up. You want a man that LOVES you not just "likes you" we aren't 15 now are we? I haven't said a guy "likes" me since I was in highschool. Wow. But anyway why not wait for a man who loves you deeply and only you who doesn't have baggage. Someone that's going to cherish you, someone with character who understands the SANCTITY of marriage. Someone who wants to spend their life with you and you alone. If he is cheating it's because he feels he is not getting everything he needs at home, if he leaves his wife, his child and his home he'll eventually get bored with you too and cheat on you. How low. Pick yourself up take a shower and get a life. Have some respect damn girl. I cannot believe you don't have enough self-respect to find a man who is loyal to you and you alone . I would never stick in a relationship with a guy who was with someone else. I have my pride and my brain. I'm sorry for you. Were you abused as a child? Sheesh. You deserve better. And so does his Wife. Despite what you think.
2007-06-12 17:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all you are really totally wrong having an affair with a married man. Secondly, you should be ashamed of yourself asking people to give you advice on how you can get him to dump her for you. Yes, that is what he tells you that she is controlling, jealous, possessive...and all the rest, because he wants to have sex with you and leave you with the false hope that he will eventually leave his wife...My advice, tell him goodby and walk away ASAP. He is never going to leave his wife, nor should he. He has a child and tell him, if and when he leaves his wife on his own, and he is divorced, to look you up. That is my advice to you, because one day, he will do the same thing to you as he is doing to his wife. Think hard and strong....
2007-06-13 09:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I firmly believe that any "Cheating" is done on the part of the person who made the vows. You have not made this woman any promises.
He's the only one who is doing any cheating.
Why would he leave her?
They have a kid and a house together.
You are giving him what he needs.
He's happy just the way it is- why would he change?
He is lying to her- why not lie to you too?
If he LOVED and cherished you enough- he would have told her the truth and left her.
You can't MAKE anyone do anything.
You could probably make him LEAVE you- that's about it.
DECIDE: You want to be the other woman and continue, or start over without him.
He will not leave her.
(um mm. sorry to point this out- of COURSE she is jealous- he's CHEATING ON HER.)
2007-06-12 17:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your serious, right? Woman like you actually make me sick. Did you happen to see his radar jammer (wedding ring). That means awful woman like you need to crawl under a rock and stay there. He is never going to leave his wife, your not the first sucker and you won't be the last. I have a question for you, how can you do this to another woman and her child? I am actually writing a piece on this and I would probably use your answer. I really want to know why people cheat, and how people like you can look at them selves in mirror. When you marry, I hope that some awful person does not want to hurt your child like this.
2007-06-12 17:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else
It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return
im a psychic & I can see he LOVES HER
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2007-06-12 18:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to re-think. If you were all that then he wouldve left by now. Kids and a house doesnt keep a man at home. He is using you for sex. Its MANY men who have left their home if they were unhappy or had somebody else that they wanted to be with. Thats the story he's just telling you.
You are probably not the first person he's cheated with and if you got with him, he'd do it to you. Please dont feel that you are so much better than her. Or that everything he is telling you is true.
Youre giving up p-ssy and who knows what else and believing him.. THATS why youre around.
Be smarter, be respectable, and be a real women. Get a man who is not attached.
2007-06-12 17:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by frankee_77 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You dont.
You dump him, and find a nice single guy who's life is uncomplicated by a wife and kids.
90% of guys who cheat aren't going to leave their wives, they're just in it for easy sex from women who are naieve enough to buy their "she's so horrible to me" bs.
And you probably aren't better in bed, you're just different, and new. Give it 10 years (and I wouldnt) he'll dump you for someone "nicer and better in bed"
2007-06-12 18:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know you are better in bed? It sounds like that is all that you have going for you, if indeed that is true. Sex is not the ultimate answer to any question. You have a world of growing up to do before ever attempting a relationship.
2007-06-12 17:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by WhiteChocolate 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you have no control over what another person does, and if he'd leave those commitments, how do you know he'll remain committed to you. Wake up...karma's a (fill in the blank)...besides, have you seen Fatal Attraction...the mistress died and the family went on about their business. YOU have to know that you deserve someone who loves you honestly and openly...not settle for someone who is unwilling to offer all of that to you! Peace and Blessings...there are good unattached men out there.
2007-06-12 17:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by Charming Taurus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋